Is it normal i think i'm not a nice person?

I'm not looking for validation or comforting. I'm just thinking out loud and hoping to get some interesting feedback.

I don't think I'm a nice person. My actions appear nice, but the thought behind it isn't what others may think I guess. I do things because it's common sense. If someone is crying, it's common sense to ask what's wrong and see if you can be of assistance. If someone looks lost, it's common sense to give them directions. Though it may seem like I'm going out my way to help another person I don't feel as if I am. If I have the money, resources, or time to assist someone who clearly needs assistance then why not? Yet when people reject my help, I walk away and been called cold for doing so... but what else am I to do? Beg that person to allow me to help them? No. Common sense would be just let them figure it out and I move on with no regrets. I do this for people who don't trust information I've given them as well... I just let them be stupid because they clearly want to be despite hearing the correct answer to their question.

TL;DR - I help people because it's common sense to do so, but I don't go out of my way to forcibly help if told not to. I don't feel as though my actions are kind or nice but rather the easiest and more obvious choice to make since it takes more effort to ignore someone.

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  • DIO

    As Batman once said :"It's not what I am underneath but what I do that defines me."

    You can have the worst thoughts in the world, want to rape children or want to kill everyone within a 10 km radius, as long as those thoughts stay in your head and you don't act on your impulses, even if you help people just because it's common sense, you're still a way better person that anyone not having those thoughts but not helping anyone at all.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Ain't nuthin' wrong with you.

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  • Sleepykitten

    Sounds like you're what's known as "a good person", which is much better and more important that being nice. Niceness is a surface-level activity and there are a lot of nice people who are real assholes when you get down to it. They'll spend a lot of time making a big show of helping that person and then often not care about the actual helping part. Often, they'll fuck you over or leave you in the lurch, but they'll do it with a smile and so they expect you to smile back.

    Good people aren't well-recognized in modern society. We're all about appearances these days, so if you make a big show of being helpful without actually helping, society will reward you much more than if you just help without making a show. The people calling you cold are judging you on a surface-level basis. They are being stupid. Ignore them. You're right; you can't help people who don't want to be helped and it's often not right to try.

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  • litelander8

    I'm the same way. I'd do just about anything for anyone but I'm also a total piece of shit 🤷🏾‍♀️

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