The term is not only vague & meaningless but pointless, which is why it's not used today.
I recommend you check out Cognitive Behavior Therapy, which would give you tools to change your negative thinking patterns, for example, it's not logical to believe people who don't know you are thinking you're insane. CBT will teach you to replace this type of thinking with rational alternatives - give it a try & see how you go. If you can't afford or find a therapist who specialises in this, google and find books and stuff online.
And by the way, I don't believe you're insane or anything approaching insanity, but you are trapped in negative thought patterns which you can change. Also check out books on neuroplasticity, for example The Brain That Changes Itself: it's now proved we can change how our brains function at any time in our lives.
Sure, I get what you mean.
But the term "insanity" isn't a useful term at all. Just as it wouldn't do you any good to be diagnosed as "unwell" when you have a specific illnes.
Still today it seems as if every tiny deviation from a standardised personality is called a "disorder" of some sort. That might not be very helpful either.
You know you haven't given any reason as to why people would think you're insane. I mean other than being "quiet and polite". Surely you wouldn't think anyone else must be crazy because they're quiet and polite. When I'm being quiet and polite people just assume I'm shy. And they're right.
I think the only problem you have is that you think too much about yourself. I did that for a long time aswell.
I definitely over think everything for sure. The reason I think they think that is the body language. People seem to immediately distance themselves from me. I'm not trying to read people's minds but the looks I get from people make me think this.
Btw I think body language says a lot when it's displayed over and over again. Yes we can misinterpret occasionally but not time and time and time again.
But what is this body language you're talking about? If you mean facial expressions, of course others respond to them and similarly ways of expressing oneself verbally
A clerks face is smiling and they are easy going to customers before but suddenly with me, expressionless and hurried.
In a group conversation. In that situation people are in active conversation until I speak up (on topic) and they all go quiet then talk to others and ignore me.
The way people disband when I join in, the way people look at me quizzically. I look and smell normal btw.
Then also, apart from body language, I have no friends, no romantic interests, my family has outings and get togethers all the time but never Invite me. My parents and sibling have not texted or called me in over a decade. My folks won't allow me over if there is a chance the neighbors and company may stop by.
I could go on forever.
Something is clearly wrong with me. Just no-one, not even doctors will tell me what.
Ah yes, the body language.
There's quite a few interesting studies and talks on how little we're really able to read people. Apparently they found that people are better at telling if someone's lying on the phone than in person. Because we try to read expressions but misinterpret them.
You're already going around thinking people mistrust you, so of course that's how you interpret what they do.
Imagine if you met someone who's EXACTLY like yourself: He'd see you and think: "Oh, that guy probably thinks I'm weird" and he'd look at the floor. Then you'd be like: "Oh, he looks at the floor, guess he thinks I'm weird." and take a step back. Now he's thinking "Shit, he's backing away! Do I look creepy?" And it would just go on and on.
See, most people don't think about you - They're busy thinking about themselves.
IIN I think everyone thinks I'm insane
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What KiwiWisdom said it spot on.
I'd just like to add that no doctor will ever categorize you as "insane". This isn't the 18th century ^^
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Understood, I used that as a catch all term to mean diagnosed with any mental illness.
I'm pretty sure insane was used until the 1950's, 60's and it's a better term than the watered down crap we have today.
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The term is not only vague & meaningless but pointless, which is why it's not used today.
I recommend you check out Cognitive Behavior Therapy, which would give you tools to change your negative thinking patterns, for example, it's not logical to believe people who don't know you are thinking you're insane. CBT will teach you to replace this type of thinking with rational alternatives - give it a try & see how you go. If you can't afford or find a therapist who specialises in this, google and find books and stuff online.
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I've done tons of cbt. It only works for small things like catching bad habits. Not deeply disturbed thoughts like this is.
At least for me. It helped me overcome anxiety and panic attacks. I can now control a panic attack and stop it. I highly recommend it for that.
Sure, I get what you mean.
But the term "insanity" isn't a useful term at all. Just as it wouldn't do you any good to be diagnosed as "unwell" when you have a specific illnes.
Still today it seems as if every tiny deviation from a standardised personality is called a "disorder" of some sort. That might not be very helpful either.
You know you haven't given any reason as to why people would think you're insane. I mean other than being "quiet and polite". Surely you wouldn't think anyone else must be crazy because they're quiet and polite. When I'm being quiet and polite people just assume I'm shy. And they're right.
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I definitely over think everything for sure. The reason I think they think that is the body language. People seem to immediately distance themselves from me. I'm not trying to read people's minds but the looks I get from people make me think this.
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What is the body language which you believe causes others to distance themselves from you?
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But what is this body language you're talking about? If you mean facial expressions, of course others respond to them and similarly ways of expressing oneself verbally
A clerks face is smiling and they are easy going to customers before but suddenly with me, expressionless and hurried.
In a group conversation. In that situation people are in active conversation until I speak up (on topic) and they all go quiet then talk to others and ignore me.
The way people disband when I join in, the way people look at me quizzically. I look and smell normal btw.
Then also, apart from body language, I have no friends, no romantic interests, my family has outings and get togethers all the time but never Invite me. My parents and sibling have not texted or called me in over a decade. My folks won't allow me over if there is a chance the neighbors and company may stop by.
I could go on forever.
Something is clearly wrong with me. Just no-one, not even doctors will tell me what.
Ah yes, the body language.
There's quite a few interesting studies and talks on how little we're really able to read people. Apparently they found that people are better at telling if someone's lying on the phone than in person. Because we try to read expressions but misinterpret them.
You're already going around thinking people mistrust you, so of course that's how you interpret what they do.
Imagine if you met someone who's EXACTLY like yourself: He'd see you and think: "Oh, that guy probably thinks I'm weird" and he'd look at the floor. Then you'd be like: "Oh, he looks at the floor, guess he thinks I'm weird." and take a step back. Now he's thinking "Shit, he's backing away! Do I look creepy?" And it would just go on and on.
See, most people don't think about you - They're busy thinking about themselves.