I think you're being rather one sided. people express their affection in different ways, some guys like showing off their girls to brag, others like to keep them hidden because she's their precious treasure.
You're only looking at this from the perspective that he's trying to control her, look at from his perspective, from the way he sees it this is how he shows he cares.
I'm not saying he's right or your right, You have a perfectly legitimate point. I'm just saying look at it his way as well, you seem rather angry on this subject. And honestly I think insulting him is unnecessary.
What debunks this whole statement is him saying, "If you go see a male doctor, I'm dumping you."
He's willing to cause her emotional turmoil for his own feelings. Willingness to hurt your own partner for your own wants...; how is that love? That's controlling.
The possessiveness I can understand, because my boyfriend is a bit like that (and we talked about it), he's always ready to knock a guy out if he so much makes me uncomfortable. However, he has neither gave me an unltimatum, nor told me what to do. He simply gave me his switchblade, and asked that I stay safe lol.
I'm not attacking you, but just voicing my opinion that OP did crossed the line on this one.
I really don't care how he or anyone like him feels, because love is not ownership. He's not expressing anything, he's just making it apparent that he thinks he has a right to ownership of her and her body. He might think he loves her, but what he thinks is love is something people are better off without.
Don't care how he feels? If you're in a relationship with someone you should care. It's true it doesn't mean you should automatically bend to your partners will but you should still care about how it makes them feel.
Also I guess we just have different views on this but I don't understand how you don't see this as him expressing his care. It's the same principle as most people don't want others to see their significant others naked.
I agree with you that medical care trumps modesty and his threatening to dump her is unquestionably over the top but its the same basic though misplaced sentiment. His love may be misplaced, but I do still see this as him caring for her in his own way.
I don't see him as caring or loving in the least. If I were in her shoes I'd take his stupid feelings into account, because those stupid feelings would be my reason for getting rid of him. Life is short, and there's no reason to settle for wasting time with someone who treats one as property.
I don't understand how you could see OP as caring at all, rather than seeing him for what he really is which is selfish, ignorrant, delusional, inappropriate and controlling. Controlling is not caring.
IIN I panic over my gf visit to male doctor?
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I think you're being rather one sided. people express their affection in different ways, some guys like showing off their girls to brag, others like to keep them hidden because she's their precious treasure.
You're only looking at this from the perspective that he's trying to control her, look at from his perspective, from the way he sees it this is how he shows he cares.
I'm not saying he's right or your right, You have a perfectly legitimate point. I'm just saying look at it his way as well, you seem rather angry on this subject. And honestly I think insulting him is unnecessary.
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What debunks this whole statement is him saying, "If you go see a male doctor, I'm dumping you."
He's willing to cause her emotional turmoil for his own feelings. Willingness to hurt your own partner for your own wants...; how is that love? That's controlling.
The possessiveness I can understand, because my boyfriend is a bit like that (and we talked about it), he's always ready to knock a guy out if he so much makes me uncomfortable. However, he has neither gave me an unltimatum, nor told me what to do. He simply gave me his switchblade, and asked that I stay safe lol.
I'm not attacking you, but just voicing my opinion that OP did crossed the line on this one.
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I can't argue there. The ultimatum is over the line I agree. THat is taking it too far.
I really don't care how he or anyone like him feels, because love is not ownership. He's not expressing anything, he's just making it apparent that he thinks he has a right to ownership of her and her body. He might think he loves her, but what he thinks is love is something people are better off without.
Who needs love like that? Nobody!
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Don't care how he feels? If you're in a relationship with someone you should care. It's true it doesn't mean you should automatically bend to your partners will but you should still care about how it makes them feel.
Also I guess we just have different views on this but I don't understand how you don't see this as him expressing his care. It's the same principle as most people don't want others to see their significant others naked.
I agree with you that medical care trumps modesty and his threatening to dump her is unquestionably over the top but its the same basic though misplaced sentiment. His love may be misplaced, but I do still see this as him caring for her in his own way.
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I don't see him as caring or loving in the least. If I were in her shoes I'd take his stupid feelings into account, because those stupid feelings would be my reason for getting rid of him. Life is short, and there's no reason to settle for wasting time with someone who treats one as property.
I don't understand how you could see OP as caring at all, rather than seeing him for what he really is which is selfish, ignorrant, delusional, inappropriate and controlling. Controlling is not caring.