Is it normal i occasionally cringe remembering my past days on instagram?

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So, I am the person who hates taking selfies and shares my life on social media. When I saw lots of my friends used Instagram, I felt like wanting to fit in so I made my account as well.

My friends and I followed each other. I started posting a few selfies and some of my life like my birthday and going to eat at certain grand restaurant on Instagram.

I used it for about a few months and then I realized, wtf...I am sure these people didn't even care about my already boring life and I didn't even actually care about their thousands of selfies accompanied with pretentious quotes for their captions and their fake happiness in those pictures. Not to mention, some of these friends just look nothing more than narcissists in my eyes. It's like those pictures screamed "Come on, I look like a cool narcissist today, like my photo please!" and came off as wanting validations from others. I pretended to give a shit about their lives when I didn't actually care at all and I am sure they felt the same towards me.

It disgusts me that I became someone I hate to be. I already deleted everything related to Instagram now but I still cringe to this day thinking about it. I must've looked like a complete pretentious narcissist back then with all those shared selfies and daily life of mine but I am glad I am out of this narcissist hole.

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charli.m

4 years ago

I don't understand selfies. Rarely take them because fuck knows I don't need to see my ugly mug. Certainly wouldn't inflict it on others regularly.

My ig is private and primarily for keeping in touch with overseas friends. And photos of my dog. Photos of me would feel gross and narcissistic.

But I don't necessarily apply that to my friends' accounts.

Unless it's duckface etc pics. Then I judge. Hard.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  True. I am still haunted by those selfies I took and posted on IG just to fit in. I felt guilty thinking about flooding other people IG with my ugly selfies back then. My IG was also flooded with friends' selfie pics. Double nightmares when they putted irrelevant pretentious quotes as captions for their selfie pics.
  
  IG needs more considerate person like you. I am absolutely fine if people took selfies once in a while but it's annoying as a follower when their contents are mostly just about that. Pictures of cats or dogs would be sweet and refreshing to look at after going through thousands of narcissistic selfies of them.
  
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  - charli.m
    
    4 years ago
    
    Awww don't be so hard on yourself. Chances are, others had my attitude of being less judgy about your posts.
    
    Haah...the quotes yeah...for me it's hashtags. I can't stand em, but I'm resigned to others using them, now. Same as I despise "lol" etc...but am resigned to the fact that people I love do use them. And I still love them despite it :p
    
    There's a fair amount of pupper and kitty accounts on IG that aren't a load of wank. I follow heaps cos fluffballs.
    
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Nikclaire

4 years ago

Well for once I agree with charle.m never take pics of yourself. Be anonymous

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Cuntsiclestick

4 years ago

Reminds me of the cousins I have that practically live on Facebook. Their profiles are full of pics of weird faced selfies, the meals they eat, the things they buy, etc. It's so boring. Some of them get upset if not enough people Like their status. XD

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  Relatable. I've several friends on Facebook who constantly share about the most common stuff like what they eat for breakfast and going to a mall in the afternoon. I was like "yeah, keep on updating your daily life, I am sure everyone would 'love' to know your adventures during breakfast and at the mall". >_>
  
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  - Cuntsiclestick
    
    4 years ago
    
    I'm thinking about either removing them or unsubscribing to their posts. Then again, watching them bicker with each other over petty stuff is fun. XD
    
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Boojum

4 years ago

Everyone tries out stuff and then thinks, "Why the fuck did I do that, when I knew it was stupid from the start?"

Don't beat yourself up over this. At one particular point in your life, your desire to conform to the norms of your group overwhelmed the rational part of you. That's a very normal thing to do, and there are far, far worse ways in which you could have done it. Rather than being annoyed at yourself, be proud that you have the strength to go your own way rather than charging aimlessly around and bleating your head off with all the social media sheep.

You're right: nobody apart from your close real-life friends cares what you post. Even they probably don't pay a lot of attention to what you put up because most of their energy is spent curating their own phoney image and whoring for the likes.

It's really pretty damn pathetic, but social media hit on a very effective way to keep us coming back when they invented the "Like" button. We all get a little dopamine hit when we see that someone has expressed approval of something we've posted, and it can be a form of addiction.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  Thanks for the advice! It's really nice to look at a positive perspective after feeling really shitty for being an oblivious narcissist back then, haha.
  
  It's hard to tolerate those tons of pointless selfies and boring daily life stuff they kept shoving on my face.
  
  I am sick of making myself feel like a fake for pretending that I care about their lives. I am sure most of them don't even care about mine neither. I really have to agree with you on the social media 'likes'. Most people care about those meaningless 'likes' that won't do shit to save them when they're in troubles. I've known my colleagues who got competitive for likes instead of actually just connecting with each other.
  
  I feel like social medias are filled with lots of fake people showing their fake happiness in the pictures and status updates. I got into this conclusion because it turns me into one too back then. *Shudder*
  
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CoffeeTime

4 years ago

Social media was originally only meant to connect with each other in the first place. Today, it has lost its meaning.

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  4 years ago
  
  I've to agree with you. I think it has now turned into a place seeking for social validation. I recall this one acquantaince bragged to me about having 200+ likes for his picture more than his friends and I secretly cringed when he did that. It baffled me how some people on social media can be competitive about likes. He really looked like a total narcissist and desperate for validation when he did that. I really wish I didn't know about Instagram at all back then.
  
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Doesnormalmatter

4 years ago

I always do! Yes its normal!

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[Old Memory]

4 years ago

I don’t care for selfies and seeing other people’s. I have Instagram but it’s filled with my car and fallowing other subie owners where I can see their build and what they’ve done. I don’t like social medias but love photography. If a person posts food and selfies it usually makes me cringe a bit. I do have like two pics with my car and I on there but it’s a regular smile not some weird pose with a duck face.

I love my car and want to express my interest in Subaru in general and love seeing what people have done to theirs. Sometimes I get them messaging me talking about builds which is usually nice until it gets weird. I’ve gotten hit on a lot from it which just makes me want to delete it.

Pictures and conversations on cars and sharing my interests on just cars is really only form of social media I really want to have. So I may have instagram but I’ve made it strictly what I want. After all I’d rather stare at a nice sti than read a long post on someones kid saying shit for the first time.

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SkullsNRoses

4 years ago

I cant stand Instagram either, as you say it’s an endless parade of lies and narcissism creating a breeding ground for greed and low-self esteem.

I wouldn’t be too hard on yourself for joining in though, the pressure to use social media in 2019 is immense and it’s normal to wonder what you’re missing and want to be a part of it. It also sounds to me like what you posted was perhaps cringey in hindsight but wasn’t anything controversial or career-damaging. I doubt this will come back to bite you in years to come.

You are free to skip merrily away from its memory and devote your internet hours to dodgy advice forums instead.

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Is it normal i occasionally cringe remembering my past days on instagram?