Is it normal i'm willing to wait this long for her? or is she nothing special?

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Alright, so this is going to be kind of long, but it's complicated.

There's this girl I used to know, but she moved away. The first time we talked we were completing each others sentences, no lie.

I've known her for 5 years, 2 years in person. We've just been texting, playing games online together,calling etc. I've always cared about her as more than a friend, but she only admitted that she likes me too in the last year.

She calls me every night to say goodnight, but we end up talking for 2-4 hours. Sometimes I like to stay on for awhile if she falls asleep to hear her breathing and to make sure she's sleeping okay. I know it sounds weird, hear me out, I need to vent.

She might be moving back in about 3 years at the least, and I told her I'd wait for her, no matter how long. I don't care if freaking Megan Fox comes knocking on my door.

She's just so cute and funny and sweet. But my friends say it's weird? They say I should get some "tail" here, like I just want her for cheap sex or something. So I'm not sure if I'm normal or not for caring about someone so deeply that I haven't seen in 3 years. Do all relationships have to be physical? I'd be happy to be able to just cuddle her for a day.

She's honestly so much more to me than they think, and I don't know if I can ever find anyone here that's as perfect as she is. Every girl I meet, I'm going to compare to her :| .

I'm just so confused, and my friends are total pigs and think women are just there to look pretty.

I don't know what I should do.

Is it normal that I'd seriously wait forever? We're both 23, but she needs to stay where she is for now because of some family problems.

I know I'm still young, and there's other people. But I feel like we were made for each other.

I think it will be worth the wait, but what do you guys think?

I just needed to write this down or something to figure it out.

I think I would be fine, but my friends have planted doubts in my mind.

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  • gattino
    13 years ago | pl

    I don't think you should wait for her.

    Why? Because that isn't fair to yourself. I feel like if you aren't already engaged or married to this girl, there's no reason you should be waiting for YEARS for her. What if you meet someone right under your nose who is a match for you soon but you're blind to it?

    And your friends are sleezy to think that you just having sex with a bunch of women will solve the problem or is the right thing to do. Waiting for so long will only be painful for you. I think you should use the time to learn more about yourself. Being in your early 20s and experiencing 3 years will change you a lot.

    That still doesn't mean that if you're single when she comes back you shouldn't date her. But pining after her for so long won't be any good for you.

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  • Adrian
    13 years ago | pl

    Dude, I've been in your shoes and from experience I could tell you this, never wait for anyone or anything that is not guaranteed. Alot of things could happen in 3 years, What if she meets another guy? What's going to happen with you? I say go out there and enjoy life, meet new girls but NEVER compare them to her, and just have fun. wen that time comes and you guys still feel the same, then it was ment to be.... :)

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  • sparrowfeed
    13 years ago | pl

    OMG you wait to hear her breathing when she's sleeping.

    I want someone to do that for me -_-

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  • yayasaga
    13 years ago | pl

    What Wouldn't I do for love? What shouldn't you do? The only thing that matters is how you feel about it. If you're perfectly fine waiting for her and feel satisfied with what you have then keep doing what you're doing. Bringing other people in could ruin your perfect thing you have going on. I think I would also take into consideration what she is doing. Is she seeing or dating other people if so then yea maybe your cutting yourself short. It isn't an actual exclusive relationship yet. Maybe you guys should talk about making it one if that's what you really want now. Either way you do what makes you happy! Good luck

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  • Xena
    11 years ago | pl

    Is there some reason why you can't move to her? DUH

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  • BoredGuy
    12 years ago | pl

    you willget so utterly crushed. I feel sorry for you already.

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago | pl

    I agree you should either move on for now or move to where she is for now if you want to be with her so badly.

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  • Mastersash
    13 years ago | pl

    do it if she feels the same way!

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  • chucho
    13 years ago | pl

    awww.. i wish kolby was like that.. im so in love with him but he is my best friend.. and doesnt.. idk.. he is a player.. and doesnt stay in relationships.. and he "doesnt want to hurt me" but i made a promis to my self i would wait for him, havent dated anyone since. imma wait for him forever..

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  • cheesey_jelly
    13 years ago | pl

    You guys sound perfect for each other. I'm very happy for you that you've found someone you love and who is so special. Screw your friends, they're sleeze balls. But I suggest if you are craving a physical relationship, maybe try looking for that, just while she's not there, if not, wait for her. But whatever you do, please don't lose sight of what you have because saying you've found love is more than some of us can say. But like I said, don't let her keep you back if you need physical attention. There are plenty of women who just want sex, maybe you could find some for a few years. Just, don't forget about the one that's far, probably dying to be near. (cheesey, I know haha).
    I wish you all the best, I know you'll make the right choice :)

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    • whatthehellnow
      13 years ago | pl

      Thank you, you just made my smile so big. I think I will wait. As she told me earlier today, it's not like she won't be able to visit or anything. She'll probably be here in October for a month or so.

      And I noticed another poster said to go to her. If I could, I would in a heartbeat. My Mom is sick though and I have very little money at the moment, so I think it would be in everybody's best interest for me to stay here. :(

      She's very special to me, so I think I'll wait. I know I'm special to her, too :D . I don't care what my sleazy friends have to say. I've dated quite a few women, and none of them have made me feel like this. I'm a huge sap, I know.

      Anyway, what's 2 or 5 years... People live to be like 80. So, that's like nothing.

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  • kellstar
    13 years ago | pl

    I agree with both posters! More so the last one. Your friends obviously havnt felt that way about someone and u r the lucky one! Goodluck with your dream girl!

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  • ampedup45
    13 years ago | pl

    The person who posted before me is right in some aspects... Try not to let her hold you back if you do, in fact, find someone else. But I am a huge believer when it comes to love. And if you really feel that she is the only one for you in the entire world, or that she honestly completes you... I don't care what your friends say, that is worth waiting for. And you are seriously the luckiest man in the world to have found someone that special.

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  • xxxbeautifullybrokenxxx
    12 years ago | pl

    Wait for her!!!! You will have a great relationship!

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