Is it normal i'm going crazy coz i'm so alone?

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I have friends whom I talk to frequently but I miss having a partner to cuddle, kiss, walk by the beach and see movies together. I'm too needy and sensitive (cry easily) and only had 2 girlfriends all my life.

I'm not bad looking but I'm broke currently and can't dress well or go to nice places, like restaurants or concerts.
It seems I'm invisible to women.
I see couples and get so down I want to die. It's like everyone's got somebody but me.

The only thing that makes me wake up everyday is knowing my cat needs to be taken care of. Or else I would just let myself go...

I'm afraid I might go crazy if this persists. I can't stand being alone anymore.

This is serious and truthful.
Please, I need advice.

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  • bubsy
    6 years ago

    Stop placing the source of your validation in others, your behavior is unattractive to women and it will repel them, your sensitivity stems from living inside your head, read "No More Mr. Nice Guy".

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Thanks.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    Try not to let your loneliness swallow you alive. It's good that you have a cat! It's important to have something outside of ourselves for which to live. A lot of haters are gonna hate on me for this, but do try to be open to a Higher Power of your understanding, and by Higher Power I do mean God, or rather God as you understand God. People tend to be much lonelier, more desperate and hopeless when they don't have something bigger than themselves in which to believe.

    When you find a young lady you're interested in try not to put her on a pedestal or worship her, because no one can live up to that sort of thing. We all eventually let down those we love, and those who love us.

    In the meantime try to do the best for yourself, get good rest, exercise, nutrition and feed your mind with position things. Learn to love yourself, because your higher power does love you! If you can't love yourself, how are you gonna love anybody else?

    Hang in there, man; you are not alone in your struggle!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Old post but my cat died a month ago and I feel so miserable. Thinking of my ex and crying.

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      • RoseIsabella
        6 years ago

        I'm sorry for your loss. My cat just turned ten and it really scares me, because I feel like his life is 75% over. He's my best friend and I wish I could have him strong and healthy for the rest of my life.

        My heart really goes out to you. How old was kitty, what happened?

        I'm sorry about your breakup, but try to focus more on your feelings of grief and loss about your cat. I hope this doesn't sound too terribly insensitive, but it's always been my belief that an ex us an ex for a reason.

        Maybe you can do some volunteer work with cats or kittens soon? It's also important to pray and meditate about the gratitude that I'm sure you have for your cat and his or her presence in your life.

        Your struggle is still in my heart!

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          Forgot to add he was about 8.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          Thanks so much. Your kind words bring me some comfort. I am thinking of doing volunteer work for some animal rights group, yeah...
          What hurts me is that the ex and I had a connection, she felt it too but just bailed on me. I guess I should accept that but it hurts.

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        • BlackCatsAreAwesome
          6 years ago

          Goodness, my cat just turned 10 as well but I think of him being middle aged, not 75% through. My previous cat died at 16.

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          • Anonymous Post Author
            6 years ago

            It's hard. He was my family.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Thanks heaps for the advice. Actually, I'm quite spiritual and frequent my religious/charity group weekly. But I got in so deep that only after some 4 months of depressive thoughts I am starting to get out of the hole.

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  • captain_redclaw
    6 years ago

    well if your ever on the west coast of usa and decide to become gay ill be with you XD i love needy people makes me feel useful!!!

    no but i am serious if u ever feel like girls suck switch to guys if you can manage it that is

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    • darausnicht
      6 years ago

      Yeah, I am a bisexual guy and I have been with members of the bi community (I am 36 so... I was outed before the 90s came.). I have a few straight friends I had something like this happen with and one is still a good friend. The others tried to puff up and act like they weren't obvious by being with me almost all the time but they glow when they are perceived as 'straight'.

      Men are bad in a different way. Bi men in my mid 20s were not fun because they'd be 'in love' and then 2 weeks later decided they wanted to be with a woman.

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  • AmbitiousPrincess
    6 years ago

    I understand how you are feeling and don't worry you are perfectly normal. Some people are more sensitive than others and that's the beauty of the world... we're all different. Maybe you could spend some time investing in yourself, changing your style up, going to the gym, setting some new health goals. The more time you spend on yourself the happier you will be by yourself and then the woman you are meant to be with will be drawn to you. Remember, we can't see the future so she could be here very sooner than you know. Start investing in yourself, good luck..you can do this!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Thanks. I'll try.

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  • nikkiclaire
    6 years ago

    Sorry you're feeling bad but being over sensitive and desperate is a major turn off. You need to start being a man and take what you want. I love when guys just do whatever they want with me and so do most of my friends.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Do you mean I should act like a jerk so women will want me?

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      • Lonelywife
        6 years ago

        NOT WOMAN, YOUR PARTNER

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    6 years ago

    Thanks. Things would be much easier if I wasn't such a romantic fool.
    I tried liking men but it's not my thing.

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