Is it normal i'm attracted to really messed up people?

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I been this way my entire life. I am very attracted to messed up people and dark personalities. If any of the Batman villians were real I would probably date most of them. In real life I always dated those from abusive homes, poverty or on a path to crime or jail. I also have a wierd obsession with oddities and freak shows as I find these poeple and things amazing. I found a YouTuber called IAmCry and love all of thier videos. I tried hard to be attracted to normal people but I just can't do it. I am not sure how to fix this. What should I do?

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  • Ellenna
    4 years ago | pl

    When I was a lot younger I was almost always attracted to people with lots of problems and seemed to collect them, until I realised that it was because they made me feel normal and together in comparison.

    Maybe that's why you like people like that too?

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    • d0esnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      Yes that's part of it no doubt. I also think women see dangerous men or men with problems as appealing because they like the idea of "taming the beast" so to speak.

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    • ellnell
      4 years ago

      Honestly I think that's very common but without people realizing that's why. That and the fact that us women have a nurturing side naturally so we find someone damaged and we want to heal them.

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      • Ellenna
        4 years ago

        Yep, the nurturing and trying to find solutions for someone else's problems was a big part of it: easier than learning to care for myself and sort out my own issues

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  • TheBlindInquisitor
    4 years ago

    Are you ok with someone who has a unatural attraction to pain and who's mood changes as quickly as he changes clothes?

    I'm kinda fucked up.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      Yes I'm a sadomasochist.

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    Nope, I'd rather be alone than mess with the sort of people who bring the drama drama.

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  • SmokeEverything
    4 years ago

    What are you doing later tonight? I don't have a car but I'm pretty good at fare evasion on public transit

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  • ellnell
    4 years ago

    Yeah ive been that way a lot myself but it only took one relationship with a guy who had a very dark personality to be done with those people. I still have a tendency to attract some people like that but I avoid them and dont get romantically involved at least. Its pretty normal though. Many people are messed up and you can be to different degrees. A depressed person can even be considered that as in my experience they can act out and get really insensitive in tough times especially if they won't acknowledge and deal with it properly. You should be careful, it can be tempting to get with those people as they appear more deep and interesting but it's usually a pretty bad idea.

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  • greyhat
    4 years ago

    Maybe focus that kinda love on helping the 'bad' people who need it and won't take advantage, as in a non romantic setting. unless you are into S&M stuff I guess

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  • controversy
    4 years ago

    Yes, that is normal.

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  • FromTheSouthWeirdMan
    4 years ago

    Yeah i know what u mean

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    • Clunk42
      4 years ago

      So do the other 20-some people who have posted very similar things to OP.

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