Is it normal i'm a very nice, loving man but i lash out when confronted?

I'm really nice to people, I guess because I like people. But when I'm confronted in an aggressive way I lash out and make you regret the day you met me. If you take advantage of my kindness, I'll get back at you x 10. I don't know why I'm like this, from one extreme to the other, but I just am. Is this normal?

Is It Normal?
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  • What you give is what you get and that's how you should continue to roll with. I do the same because some people like to take advantage. Not an anger issue, just not taking people bullshit is all.

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  • That really depends on how much it takes to make you snap. If it takes something truly unacceptable happening (be it a moral transgression, or personal offense) for you to lose your cool, that's only natural, and if the anger is used to stand up for and defend others, that is genuinely nice, and you're a good person. But use of the expression "lash out" and the first person singular leads me to belive that might not be the case. I'm assuming a lot here, but to me, your wording implies that you're nice in general, you don't go around kicking puppies and spitting at sales associates, you have manners, but if someone is less than complimentary towards you, you become a jerk.

    The thing is, having manners is not niceness, but a social requirement. Being nice, the way I see it, is performative, in that it needs to be affirmed and reaffirmed in your actions and reactions. Thinking nice thoughts is not enough if you don't also say and do nice things, even when it might be hard. And making someone "regret the day they met you" doesn't sound like something a nice person would do.

    I don't know, there are so many people who like to say "I'm a nice guy if you get to know me", and after getting burnt a few times, I've learned to read that as "I'm an asshole, but pretty good at hiding it for a while".

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  • I try to maintain professionalism and respect when dealing with people, especially at work. Even if a client is an absolute idiot, I keep my cool, cause that idiot is the one that puts food on my table.
    After all I have a reputation and image to uphold.
    Being an asshole is bad for business.

    But in general I treat people the way they treat me. If you are a jerk to me, I'll be a jerk to you.
    If you're cool with me, I'm cool with you.
    If you try to cheat me, steal from me, or hurt me, or the people I love, I will do everything in my power to ruin your life.

    Just treat people the way you want to be treated

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  • Sounds like you are obsessive and can not get over things.

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  • I am super nice but yeah cross me and it's over. I will call you out and let you know how you suck and leave it at that. 10x back? I don't want to even know what that is. Just give it back equally and stop having anything to do with that person for a time.

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  • I dunno. I routinely confront people who are rude, or hurtful toward me. I don't seek to get them back ten times worse than they go me, but I just like to be up front, and everything out in the open.

    For instance, I think some people have a tendency to see me as rather conservative, but if I have to deal with anything anti-Catholic from a fundamentalist type of person they will wish they never knew my name. I don't really mind people who were raised Catholic, and have a resentment against the church, because of their own bad life experiences, or they have just decided to become atheists, or whatever as long as they don't push their stuff on me. However, as far as fundamentalists are concerned they need to stay the Hell away from me!

    Also, people who don't like animals need to get the fuck out of my way! I was watching a show from the Vice channel about those weirdo, snake handling Pentecostals in West Virginia, and although I'm not necessarily a fan of snakes as pets I was really angry with the way they handled those poisonous snakes, and I was honestly hoping that the dude would get bitten, because they were swinging the poor things around like sacks of potatoes. I'm not looking to handle any deadly snakes, but if I ever did I would want to do so in the way that Steve Irwin handled various reptiles, with gentleness, and respect!

    Additionally, I'm one of those people who has no pity, or compassion for sex offenders of any kind. If I knew a person who was looking at underaged pornography I would be the first one to drop the dime on their sorry, piece of shit ass, cause that's how I roll.

    Oh, and cats... anybody who harms a cat should be faced with some Ancient Egyptian justice!

    I guess I might be just a little hot headed, but oh well.

    So yeah, if you're a nice, decent person, and you don't mess with me I'd be cool with you. I guess I can kinda understand a nice person just going off for the right reasons.

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    • So Rose you're fine with how fundamentalist Catholics rape little boys and how that faction of Christianity protects the priests by moving them around to other places to avoid justice and continue to rape children? You have no pity or compassion for sex offenders of any kind?🤔 the Pentecostal snake charmers are actual saints compared to your "saints".

      I normally love your thoughts Rose but wtf.

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      • I'm gonna agree with you on this. It's a bit narcissistic to talk about how you would defend your church and that you hate pedos when your church itself is or has been teeming with them.

        Rose, please take a step back and think about this for a moment. How holy and righteous can your church possibly be if it let things like this go on for so long? And to even go as far as to cover it up for years? There is more to add when it comes to the sins of the Vatican, like murders at the conclave, absolving sins for payment, including sins not yet committed, burning thousands upon thousands of "witches", the list goes on and on. The catholic church is truly the house of evil, but its followers are so in awe of its cathedrals and leaders and brainwashed by its doctrine that you will never hear a devout catholic say anything other than defensive words when someone speaks in condemnation of it. Mind boggling.

        "It has served us well, this myth of christ". Pope Leopold X.

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      • Please look up the definition of Fundamentalist.

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        • K. Here you go

          Religious fundamentalism refers to the belief of an individual or a group of individuals in the absolute authority of a sacred religious text or teachings of a particular religious leader, prophet,and/ or God .

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          • Your popes and your priests are perverting the bible. Literally and scripterally. Catholics are Christian perverts, that is why Protestants exist. Alot of protestants are garbage too. Rose, we agree on more than we disagree. Organized Catholic child rape and protection is evil. Snake charming and speaking in tongues is bad too. There are creepy protestants don't get me wrong. Let's just agree that Catholicism as a whole is wretched, and Protestantism is trying to work it out?

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          • With regard to Christianity, Southern Baptists are more what would be considered Fundamentalists.

            https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fundamentalism

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            • Im not going to watch lol i will never defend every Protestant. I think we are in agreement more than we aren't. You have learned from this debate what absolute shit catholicism is and why protestanism was necessary. There are many awful versions of protestanism too. Dont ignore Presbyterians, Methodists, and all the healthy bible loving Protestants that dissaprove of your Catholic apologies. Cherry pick some weirdo from Alabama to make fun of in a video. Fortunately that fool doesn't actually mollest children.

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      • That's not about the Catholic church that's about fucked up people doing fucked up shit to protect other fucked up people! I personally wouldn't have a problem if every pedophile on Earth dropped dead! There are pedophiles within every Christian denomination, and world religion, as well as within schools, and other trusted institutions. I could care less if every priest who has ever abused a child was taken out into a public square and shot in the head, as well as every protestant minister, rabbi, imam, school teacher, coach, neighbor, relative or whomever abuses a child!

        I DON'T APPRECIATE your presumptuous, and bigoted response to me! Not every Catholic layperson, or clergy member wants to turn a blind eye to child abusers!

        I'm not going to ever abandon my faith, because of some bad people who find their way into positions of power in the church. This crisis which you have described is not so much about the church, but about evil, cowardice, and human frailty. I would not ever think twice about reporting a pedophile from a church, school, or anywhere to the police!

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        • Yeah but only one twisted version of christianity has popes making up bs. Only catholic nonsense says priests can't marry, only catholic crazy says a pope is a medium between god and man. Only Catholics RAPE BOYS CONSTANTLY. I thought martin luther fixed this pope nonsense 600 years ago, but i guess not. We still have people defending creepy pope shit and not actual jesus values. Please Rose. Tell your priests to get off the celibate nonsense and marry and have sex.

          Catholics are literally the largest child raping organization on the planet. please stop.

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          • Wow! You are truly a bastion of ignorance, and bigotry. Do us both a favor, and write a letter to the Bishop of your local Diocese, and maybe do some research on Pope Francis who is actually working on the issue. There is nothing wrong with celibacy.

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            • Nice rewrite. You are good at admitting fault. Why should I write a rapist Bishop, of my local rapy Diocese and research Pope Francis? Your manufactured people that don't exist in the scriptures can keep protecting eachother's sins? I don't have a line to any of them. Again, it is very weird that you have Bishops, and Cardinals, and Priests and Popes as your (expensive) line to God. Where can I put a down payment for the modern Catholic God access? I have an Amex.

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