Actually, I think the fact that you're amused by your girlfriend's jealousy is a very, very good sign. I've always suspected that the people who really freak out and overreact to perceived jealousy are the weak-minded people who actually don't trust themselves completely not to cheat.
If you're that sure of yourself to be calm, cool, collected, and undisturbed or threatened by jealousy, it probably means that, not only are you not the cheating type, but that you're probably not the jealous over-protective type yourself, either.
As for why I think it's normal to "enjoy" jealousy, it's pretty logical really. For one, it's always nice to have someone interested in you, even when you're dating and not taking the flirting seriously. It's fun, and it makes you feel even more wanted. It ensures you that you haven't "slipped" since "settling" with someone.
And the other major reason to enjoy jealousy is that when your partner is jealous it means he/she cares enough to want to protect what you have together and that he/she sees you as a catch that's worth defending.
On the other hand, I can see why some people wouldn't like the trust factor being called into question. But, that said, some people are just paranoid and jealous by nature. Even if you've given them no reason to be wary, they might still have this nagging feeling that their good thing might one day be the property of someone else.
I admit, when I've dated someone jealous, not smotheringly so mind you, but jealous enough that I notice, I too felt rather exhilarated at the idea of being fought over XD It's definitely, as you said, "cute".
IIN: I Love The Jealousy
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Actually, I think the fact that you're amused by your girlfriend's jealousy is a very, very good sign. I've always suspected that the people who really freak out and overreact to perceived jealousy are the weak-minded people who actually don't trust themselves completely not to cheat.
If you're that sure of yourself to be calm, cool, collected, and undisturbed or threatened by jealousy, it probably means that, not only are you not the cheating type, but that you're probably not the jealous over-protective type yourself, either.
As for why I think it's normal to "enjoy" jealousy, it's pretty logical really. For one, it's always nice to have someone interested in you, even when you're dating and not taking the flirting seriously. It's fun, and it makes you feel even more wanted. It ensures you that you haven't "slipped" since "settling" with someone.
And the other major reason to enjoy jealousy is that when your partner is jealous it means he/she cares enough to want to protect what you have together and that he/she sees you as a catch that's worth defending.
On the other hand, I can see why some people wouldn't like the trust factor being called into question. But, that said, some people are just paranoid and jealous by nature. Even if you've given them no reason to be wary, they might still have this nagging feeling that their good thing might one day be the property of someone else.
I admit, when I've dated someone jealous, not smotheringly so mind you, but jealous enough that I notice, I too felt rather exhilarated at the idea of being fought over XD It's definitely, as you said, "cute".