I think the pertinent point is that abusers are not passive forces of nature. Abusers are people who make active choices. That is to say that vulnerable people do not force abusers to do what they do. They don't INVITE abusers to do what they do. They might allow abusers the opportunity, but abusers TAKE the opportunity.
What I object to most is your assertion that "when someone lets something happen that was obvious, it is their fault". My central point of defence is that "expectations" and "obviousness" are just not relevant. People have a right to not be violated. Living your life naively doesn't make it your fault when people take advantage of that.
Even if you don't accept any of my points, I would advise you to at least own the fact that you are victim-blaming. If you own it, you can begin to get educated about it (if you want to) by people who are better at explaining than me.
I can see I am victim blaming under certain situations, such as if I left my garage open and it got robbed I would understand it was my own fault.
The fact is there are people with bad intents and they are everywhere. To let your guard down is stupid and someone may as well burn their own house down if they cannot take action to be responsible for their own well being.
By not accepting that many people are out to take advantage of others is to set up for defeat.
IIN I look down on submissive behavior.
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I think the pertinent point is that abusers are not passive forces of nature. Abusers are people who make active choices. That is to say that vulnerable people do not force abusers to do what they do. They don't INVITE abusers to do what they do. They might allow abusers the opportunity, but abusers TAKE the opportunity.
What I object to most is your assertion that "when someone lets something happen that was obvious, it is their fault". My central point of defence is that "expectations" and "obviousness" are just not relevant. People have a right to not be violated. Living your life naively doesn't make it your fault when people take advantage of that.
Even if you don't accept any of my points, I would advise you to at least own the fact that you are victim-blaming. If you own it, you can begin to get educated about it (if you want to) by people who are better at explaining than me.
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I can see I am victim blaming under certain situations, such as if I left my garage open and it got robbed I would understand it was my own fault.
The fact is there are people with bad intents and they are everywhere. To let your guard down is stupid and someone may as well burn their own house down if they cannot take action to be responsible for their own well being.
By not accepting that many people are out to take advantage of others is to set up for defeat.