Is it normal i'll probably never know if i'm gay?

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I'm 23f and never had a relationship..all I have done is make out with a couple of guys. I have had a couple of girl crushes. One of my once close friends I fell for quite badly and I never made a move because I was too chicken plus she didn't feel the same.
I do know my feelings for her were one of a kind and I'll probably never feel that deeply about another person. I feel she was my chance to figure out if I'm lesbian or not because I don't think I will feel anything hooking up with a random chick.
I have had a lot of girl mates over the time and don't feel anything .

I also feel I should try dating or have a relationship as I'm getting older and haven't tried anything but I'm worried I won't find anyone I connect with.

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69% Normal

Based on 16 votes (11 yes)

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ALilBitNormal

6 years ago

You could be demisexual? It's where in order to want to date someone you have to have a strong friendship or know them well. One of my friends is demi and had an experience close to yours. :)

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  Ah yes I have heard of that and I think someone else on this site said I might be too and as a matter of fact I believe that
  
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  - ALilBitNormal
    
    6 years ago
    
    Oh cool! What's most important is being comfortable in your own skin, so just be what feels right!
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      6 years ago
      
      Thanks for the support x
      
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Ellenna

6 years ago

There's no reason whatsoever to tell yourself you'll never find a woman to love and who will love you. Just about everybody has an unsuccessful relationship or even several in their past and we don't all give up on the entire thing for ever and ever and ever!

She made her choice and you can't do anything about it: what you can do is change your response to it by moving on, getting out and meeting people. Train your mind to switch to some prearranged positive thoughts whenever you think of her: it's over and it won't come back and it happens to all of us at least once. Don't waste your life living in the past and telling yourself it'll always be this way: your choice

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  Thankyou..great response/advice and I understand what you mean .
  
  Very true
  
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nikkiclaire

6 years ago

I have never had this problem. My girlfriends and I were all open and honest with each other and actually talked about this stuff. It's really amazing what honest communication can do. Some of us were gay or bi, some explored and others weren't into it but I guess we were lucky

I'm sorry you feel this way.. i hope you find someone. What happened to the friend you loved?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  You asked me what happened to the friend I loved?
  
  I responded and heard no further from you...
  
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  - nikkiclaire
    
    6 years ago
    
    Oh sorry. Thats too bad about your friend. You shouldn't let it stop you from looking. There are plenty of bi or lesbian girls out there for you. If you are able to let go of your friend and move on, your heart will naturally open up.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      6 years ago
      
      Thankyou the getting back to me ..yeah I guess so..
      thankyou for the advice
      
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
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  - nikkiclaire
    
    6 years ago
    
    Why the question mark
    
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  Lucky you :))
  
  I have spoken to my one of my mates ages about having feelings for that girl but I've only ever opened up to one friend besides the person I had feelings for irl
  
  I have never had a ton of close girl mates.
  
  I'm no longer friends with that person as I was too heart broken she didn't want to be with me but not only that but she wasn't wanting to compromise to make our friendship better. I would hardly hear from her. She lives like 6 hrs away and the least she could do was communicate. I don't see how I meant anything to her otherwise she'd be making an effort.
  She also has been with this guy for about 5 years.
  I have no idea why on earth she's stayed with him for so long when he cheated on her in the beginning and isn't even real human tbh looks like a meth freak.
  I don't see him romancing her, the way he has spoken is vulgar (sexually).
  He doesn't even care for her wellbeing, not like I would
  have and did do from time to time when I could
  
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FrankBlanket

6 years ago

Sadly this is normal. But you should explore your sexuality with someone. Sign up on tinder and put "looking for someone to experiment with", with female only as your setting and you'll have lots to choose from.

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Ummitsme

6 years ago

Its really simple, if you want to fuck with men. Then you are gay.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  what? you make no sense (non sense lol)
  
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RoseIsabella

6 years ago

Most of the gay people I've known in my life knew they were attracted to the same sex since the time they were children, and only one of them that I knew had an opposite sex partner. Maybe you are just bi or bi-curious?

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- Ellenna
  
  6 years ago
  
  A fair proportion, maybe around half, of the lesbians I've known over decades didn't acknowledge their true sexuality until years after heterosexual marriage and children, but it does look as if that's changing over recent years.
  
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  - Anonymous Post Author
    
    6 years ago
    
    Interesting..maybe because it was more frowned upon back then where as now days basically anything goes
    
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  Oh really..that's interesting ..yeah well I guess I'm bi curious then since I used to like guys up until the age of 15/16
  
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McBean

6 years ago

Go hang out with a group of lesbos. See how well you fit in socially.

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- nikkiclaire
  
  6 years ago
  
  There aren't "groups of lesbos" 😂😂 We are normal people.
  
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  - McBean
    
    6 years ago
    
    There are many groups of lesbians that socialize all the time. Google up " lesbian social groups".
    
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