Thanks! I just wanted to add, hes a weed smoker. Mostly daily, I sometimes think this has an effect on that..Also, we have kids together so its not that easy to just leave and I do love him. I have mentioned it and told him it makes me feel unwanted. Hes only said that hes tired a lot. He works like a 2nd shift.( but he stays up playin video games and who knows what else to 2 or 3 in the morn!!
It's probably because he's tired and not the weed. My husband (yes, unlike a lot of people giving you advice on marriage, I'm actually married) became a "lazy lover" during his medical school residency. He was pooped! Once his schedule returned to normal, things picked up again, but I did have to remind him of the change.
Well oddly enough I just had a talk with him about it. He says its because of my attitude?? I can honestly say I'm the type of person who does not like to be in a pissy mood. I love to be goofing around. The only reason this EXCUSE may fly is because he has been pissing me off lately and he knows it, but I still initiate sex and am not mad everyday. But he has been like this for a few years. This is like torture!!!
Have you tried to not have sex for a while? You can then tell him it's because you don't get satisfied and he doesn't even try to do things that you like. You said you do everything to please him so he should do an effort for you.
Maybe you can get yourself a toy and play with yourself and the only thing he'll be allowed to do is to watch. I think this could work.
He should stop the weed, that's for sure. He's got a family to take care of and I'm sure the money to buy weed could be used for better things for the family.
I just feel kinda sad that people are like this out there. I believe that people should do the best they can for their partner, whatever the situation. Anyways, I really hope he will change for you.
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Thanks! I just wanted to add, hes a weed smoker. Mostly daily, I sometimes think this has an effect on that..Also, we have kids together so its not that easy to just leave and I do love him. I have mentioned it and told him it makes me feel unwanted. Hes only said that hes tired a lot. He works like a 2nd shift.( but he stays up playin video games and who knows what else to 2 or 3 in the morn!!
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It's probably because he's tired and not the weed. My husband (yes, unlike a lot of people giving you advice on marriage, I'm actually married) became a "lazy lover" during his medical school residency. He was pooped! Once his schedule returned to normal, things picked up again, but I did have to remind him of the change.
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Well oddly enough I just had a talk with him about it. He says its because of my attitude?? I can honestly say I'm the type of person who does not like to be in a pissy mood. I love to be goofing around. The only reason this EXCUSE may fly is because he has been pissing me off lately and he knows it, but I still initiate sex and am not mad everyday. But he has been like this for a few years. This is like torture!!!
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Have you tried to not have sex for a while? You can then tell him it's because you don't get satisfied and he doesn't even try to do things that you like. You said you do everything to please him so he should do an effort for you.
Maybe you can get yourself a toy and play with yourself and the only thing he'll be allowed to do is to watch. I think this could work.
He should stop the weed, that's for sure. He's got a family to take care of and I'm sure the money to buy weed could be used for better things for the family.
I just feel kinda sad that people are like this out there. I believe that people should do the best they can for their partner, whatever the situation. Anyways, I really hope he will change for you.