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I am 23 years old and I hate online dating. Men who wouldn't even talk to me or take a 2nd look at me in real life will try to message me online. It doesn't help that in real life I never get asked out and I am barely approached or hit on. I feel forever alone honestly.
You should try meet-an-inmate.com
"I enjoy quite times alone, walks on the beach, and armed robbery."
So you hate how men approach you online, and you hate how men _don't_ approach you IRL.
There's no law requiring that everyone under thirty must list themselves in a few online meat-markets. If you don't like online dating, don't fucking do it, or maybe at least reconsider which sites you're using.
Harder to say what changes you could make to encourage men to hit on you IRL. Maybe you give off a don't-fucking-bother-me vibe, or you come across as someone who believes they are totally unattractive.
From my experience, online dating sites are mostly full of lying, overly emotional, mentally disabled, men and women who aren't in touch with reality. You'll be sifting through a lot of trash before you find someone good. If guys won't approach you in real life, then take initiative and approach them. Waiting around for a guy isn't going to yield results.
I personally have only been online dating for the past 2 years since I really dislike seeing people in real life all the time. 😂 But I totally understand where you are coming from.
Online dating sucks. I tried it but gave up. It attracts the vermin of humanity.
True that! I have had very poor success online, and the people I have met are fucked in the head! I mean they were from a kinky hook up site so what should I have expected?
And in real life too tbh. Any kind of dating makes no sense from a loving point of view - it's always just a "hookup" in the end.
I know, and I'm also just straight up burned out as far as dealing with other people, and their business. I'm just all about my two geezers, and my cat these days.
What I honestly hate nowadays is the way some people act like there's something wrong with you if you're not trying to be in a relationship with someone, or hookup, whatever. I'm just tired of bullshit, and I ain't got the time, patience, or inclination for dealing with bullshit, and I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
Same but I have felt that way since about middle school and it apparently has a negative effect on one's mental health, which i am trying to reverse, but probably missed my chances. seems that people were a lot nicer 5-10 years ago and now society as a whole is going to garbage . i just want to get away from it all. At least you got to experience a social life before making that decision.
Well on some sites, thats kinda the point. But if your looking for a hook up on a dating site, your kind of a cheapskate. Basically it depends what site your using.
I spoke to someone recently who told me that I ought to go to match.com or eharmony.com, because I had met my crazy ex-boyfriend on plentyoffish.com. The whole time I was just thinking I ain't gonna go anywhere, because I'm good flying solo for now. Ugh, at the time I didn't even know from where the whole topic materialized. Apparently, the person thinks plentyoffish.com is a hookup site, I've mostly been told that it's a cheapskate site. Tinder is the site that I hear people always referring to as the big hookup site, but I digress... I don't know why I have felt compelled to recall the whole tedious, and redundant discussion. I guess I just wanted to get it off my chest. No pun intended, of course.
I wouldn't put much faith in online dating sites, most guys on them are just grimy douche nozzles looking for an easy fuck.
I have been on online dating for 2 years, and yes it sucks. The ones you like don't return messages or the ones that contact you are a little, how can I say this... Homely. But after all this time and wasted 1st dates I may have found the gem in the rough. BUT! She lives 1.5 hours away from me. Still, we really clicked. We like the same activities, same interests, same type of offbeat humor, etc...
So I'm giving it a shot. I feel if something is worth it, it's worth driving for. Did I mention I hate driving? Or is it going out? Doesn't matter. If it was meant to be, we'll know.
So you are lonely and you would like social interaction leading to hot money love with the right guy. Fair enough, you sound normal. Socializing online is a different skill set than socializing in person. Time to go to YouTube. Search for "How to socialize online". Took me a long time to get good at it. Eventually, go back to YouTube. Search on "How to be comfortable in your skin", and then "How to flirt". I'm bad at flirting. But since you are female, you will learn faster.
Beware of the online dating bots. Match.com, and others run them on their servers to keep your level of anticipation higher. Also beware of human males. If you are competing for their attention to show off to other females, the lower quality guys can smell that. Not good. Better to go home and cuddle your cat instead.
It's way worse for guys. Bots seeping from every angle. Hookers (sometimes tolerated) are on the prowl and then a gem of a person plays hooky on the first date or just goes to get a free meal.
So far hitting on random chicks in a star bucks or other coffee shop has returned more attention then online.