If OP’s issues cause them to see others as not helping, then obviously the others weren’t helping, since OP wouldn’t have the issues anymore if they did help.
It’s not distorted thinking if they’re right, which they are 99% of the time. Children “going about everything wrong” isn’t a thing. The adults in their life are the ones who are responsible for making sure the child get the help they need. This is like a kid breaking their leg, their parents telling them to walk it off, and then blaming the kid for the lifetime of leg problems when it doesn’t heal right.
Let me fix that last paragraph for ya: People on the spectrum are beyond notorious for not getting the help they need because the adults in their life don’t do their jobs.
“If OP’s issues cause them to see others as not helping, then obviously the others weren’t helping”
Actually that’s completely incorrect. The issues in disorders can, and often do, cause the person to perceive people and events wrongly.
Specifically, the “nobody helps, nobody cares” when in fact they do, is one of the most common delusions/misinterpretations/excuses amongst many disorders.
If they weren’t thinking in distorted ways, they wouldn’t have a disorder in the first place lol.
Nope. If somebody helps them, then they wouldn’t have the disorder anymore, so they wouldn’t perceive people as not helping anymore. If they still have the disorder and still think people aren’t helping, then obviously they didn’t get the help they needed.
There certainly can be situations where somebody is trying to help and are unsuccessful, but again, OP described what happened to them as children - not only were the adults not attempting to help, they were actively making things significantly worse.
I know the “they didn’t REALLY want help” excuse is popular among lazy people who want to abdicate their responsibilities, but it’s not actually a thing. Adults are responsible for doing whatever it takes to help children in their care that need help.
A person who thinks children should simply help themselves when the adults in their life are not only not helping but actively making things worse is not qualified to determine who is and isn’t correct on this or any other topic.
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If OP’s issues cause them to see others as not helping, then obviously the others weren’t helping, since OP wouldn’t have the issues anymore if they did help.
It’s not distorted thinking if they’re right, which they are 99% of the time. Children “going about everything wrong” isn’t a thing. The adults in their life are the ones who are responsible for making sure the child get the help they need. This is like a kid breaking their leg, their parents telling them to walk it off, and then blaming the kid for the lifetime of leg problems when it doesn’t heal right.
Let me fix that last paragraph for ya: People on the spectrum are beyond notorious for not getting the help they need because the adults in their life don’t do their jobs.
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“If OP’s issues cause them to see others as not helping, then obviously the others weren’t helping”
Actually that’s completely incorrect. The issues in disorders can, and often do, cause the person to perceive people and events wrongly.
Specifically, the “nobody helps, nobody cares” when in fact they do, is one of the most common delusions/misinterpretations/excuses amongst many disorders.
If they weren’t thinking in distorted ways, they wouldn’t have a disorder in the first place lol.
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Nope. If somebody helps them, then they wouldn’t have the disorder anymore, so they wouldn’t perceive people as not helping anymore. If they still have the disorder and still think people aren’t helping, then obviously they didn’t get the help they needed.
There certainly can be situations where somebody is trying to help and are unsuccessful, but again, OP described what happened to them as children - not only were the adults not attempting to help, they were actively making things significantly worse.
I know the “they didn’t REALLY want help” excuse is popular among lazy people who want to abdicate their responsibilities, but it’s not actually a thing. Adults are responsible for doing whatever it takes to help children in their care that need help.
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That entire statement couldn’t be any more naive and incorrect.
Facepalm yourself...hard.
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I know free speech and all, but just because you can say something, doesn’t mean you should say something or that you have to say something.
This is not a topic you should be discussing with other people.
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I happen to be correct. Better that I discuss the topic than yourself.
Nobody needs you to reinforce their symptoms further through the wildly inaccurate notion that everyone else is the problem.
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A person who thinks children should simply help themselves when the adults in their life are not only not helping but actively making things worse is not qualified to determine who is and isn’t correct on this or any other topic.