Some people don't need to drive. Public transport etc. It's no big deal.
Having a kid at 19 is not an achievement. It's like these wierdos who think losing their virginity is a competition. They're financially strapped to that kid and it will drain all their emotional energy. They're presumably not married, and I'm guessing in 90% of the cases the relationship with the bf/gf doesn't last, and so you have single parent households, child support, absent dads, etc.
You're young. Enjoy life. Don't do stupid shit because other people are.
Couldn't have said it better. There's no need to rush into having a family at 19. You're probably only a few months older than myself and I'm only just considering things like family. Not now of course, but I wouldn't mind having kids further down the road in life, when I'm ready and not because I feel behind for not doing so right now
And let's just face it, as mean as this comment may come off as (for that I apologize in advance) if you feel behind for your age, you probably shouldn't have kids anyway. I have a friend with high functioning autism and while she's excellent at some things, others she does not excel in. You just have to figure out what you're good at and build on that. You're not going to get far comparing your life to others and I'm only just a few months younger than you yet I still ask my mum for help/advice too! A lot of young adults do it and there's no shame in asking for help when its needed. You must keep in mind that all the things you can do some other people don't even know how to do that. There's no point in alienating yourself for it, or blaming your mother when as far as I'm concerned, this is perfectly normal thing for young adults to go through
EXACTLY THIS. Everyone I know who had kids at a very young age like this has struggled because of it. Not that it can't be done, but it's usually a much harder road than waiting until you have a steady career, financial situation, and are mentally ready for it. It is much better to build a career and be completely ready mentally and financially as well before having kids.
Definitely enjoy your life and remember that it's not a race or competition! Do things at your own pace and when you're ready, and don't be pressured into anything.
I know of someone that had a kid at a ridiculous age like 20. Not sure if they wanted the kid or it was an accident. It just seems so bizarre to me. This dude is a party animal and it pains me to see him play gangsta rap to an impressionable infant. The kid is already a phone addict. Clearly he should've waited. Anyway at least the girlfriend seems loyal.
I for one would only think of having a kid once I'm financially stable and find the right partner.
Yeah, I lost my virginity when I was a little older than OP when I was 20 to this woman who was almost 80. Yes, I know she was four times my age and all, and some folks might think that's a little weird. But yeah, it happens in different ways for different people.
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Some people don't need to drive. Public transport etc. It's no big deal.
Having a kid at 19 is not an achievement. It's like these wierdos who think losing their virginity is a competition. They're financially strapped to that kid and it will drain all their emotional energy. They're presumably not married, and I'm guessing in 90% of the cases the relationship with the bf/gf doesn't last, and so you have single parent households, child support, absent dads, etc.
You're young. Enjoy life. Don't do stupid shit because other people are.
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Couldn't have said it better. There's no need to rush into having a family at 19. You're probably only a few months older than myself and I'm only just considering things like family. Not now of course, but I wouldn't mind having kids further down the road in life, when I'm ready and not because I feel behind for not doing so right now
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And let's just face it, as mean as this comment may come off as (for that I apologize in advance) if you feel behind for your age, you probably shouldn't have kids anyway. I have a friend with high functioning autism and while she's excellent at some things, others she does not excel in. You just have to figure out what you're good at and build on that. You're not going to get far comparing your life to others and I'm only just a few months younger than you yet I still ask my mum for help/advice too! A lot of young adults do it and there's no shame in asking for help when its needed. You must keep in mind that all the things you can do some other people don't even know how to do that. There's no point in alienating yourself for it, or blaming your mother when as far as I'm concerned, this is perfectly normal thing for young adults to go through
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You’re comment didn’t come off as mean at all! It was actually quite helpful!
EXACTLY THIS. Everyone I know who had kids at a very young age like this has struggled because of it. Not that it can't be done, but it's usually a much harder road than waiting until you have a steady career, financial situation, and are mentally ready for it. It is much better to build a career and be completely ready mentally and financially as well before having kids.
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I know of someone that had a kid at a ridiculous age like 20. Not sure if they wanted the kid or it was an accident. It just seems so bizarre to me. This dude is a party animal and it pains me to see him play gangsta rap to an impressionable infant. The kid is already a phone addict. Clearly he should've waited. Anyway at least the girlfriend seems loyal.
I for one would only think of having a kid once I'm financially stable and find the right partner.
Yeah, I lost my virginity when I was a little older than OP when I was 20 to this woman who was almost 80. Yes, I know she was four times my age and all, and some folks might think that's a little weird. But yeah, it happens in different ways for different people.