Is it normal i feel she's just b.s?

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I told a friend over a year ago now that I had strong feelings for her. I met up with her in person and told her this however, I was way too stressed to explain how strongly I really felt. I decided to send her a message today expressing my self fully. It was a very heartfelt long message and she did reply to my surprise, in a good way.
I am a bit confused though, as she said she's missed me and I think how can she say this when in the end I was putting way more effort into the friendship than she was.
It would literally be months where I wouldn't even hear a simple "how are you" text.
In the end I gave up because not only was I heartbroken as she didn't want to be with me but I was mad at how she didn't even bother in the friendship so what's the point?
This was part of her reply to all that I had sent her today:

Your ears always burn when I speak of u, I was only telling (bosses name) that I miss you and wondering how u are.

Please help give me some insight on why someone would proclaim to miss me when we never really had a close friendship as she rarely bothered to keep it going??
Thanks for reading this :)

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  • StinkyPickle
    6 years ago

    How do you know that her "ears always burn" when you speak of her? It sounds like your belief is BS. Believing in magic will only contribute your own insanity.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      She's told me similar things in the past.
      There have been times when we had a fall out and not talk for months and then when I'd reach out to her she would say she has been thinking of me recently or that she's been talking about me.
      It occurs around the same time, therefore this is what she meant by "your ears always burn when I talk of u".
      It's got nothing to do with magic.

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      • StinkyPickle
        6 years ago

        Well, that's good. I'd say these feelings of yours have you stuck in a non-functional relationship. A healthy friendship is not like the alienating experience you are having with her. Start going to parties. Be a social artist. Pull down your pants and let girls kneel down to suck your knob.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          I am not stuck anywhere as I'm not even friends with her anymore nor do I want to be.
          I know what a healthy friendship is and it's obvious this isn't a friendship which is why I'm obviously reaching out on here asking why she would even bother saying she misses me when she stopped trying in the friendship.
          Back many years ago we used to be "proper" friends.
          ps I'm not a guy

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          • StinkyPickle
            6 years ago

            She likes to play with toys. You are part of her doll collection. You'll never get human closure with her because she is in denial of your personality. Give it up. Find a real friend.

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  • Jimbo24
    6 years ago

    She's probably just being polite.

    If you want her as more than a friend, ask her out straight, and then kiss her. You're beating around the bush hoping she'd become yours by some strike of magic, but that's not happen because she's obviously not that hot for you (yet). So either make a move, or move on.

    Good luck.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      I already have made it very clear how I felt.
      How I was in love with her and how I came to realize this.
      I just find it very disheartening she didn't even try and empathize with the way I felt. There was no "I'm sorry I didn't feel the same" or "I couldn't imagine what u went through all these years" not even aww that's sweet or flattering.
      At the end of the day, I am the only genuine and most honest person she had in her life yet she didn't care or try to keep me in her life as if I meant absolutely nothing. I don't understand..

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      • Jimbo24
        6 years ago

        Some people are low-empathy, there isn't much you can do about it, except maybe cut them off of your life.

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    Arrange to meet her in person and see how she behaves.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Already have met her in person...she was very okay with my feelings towards her and in fact had suspected this for a very long time.
      She still wanted to be friends but this was about a year ago.
      Her message to me yesterday stated how she told me she is willing to hold a friendship with me that day we met up and the offer is still there but it's my decision.
      Key word "willing"?!!
      There was no "I'd love to have u back in my life" or anything along the lines of how good of a friend I have been.
      I opened up telling her some qualities that I loved about her and she doesn't say anything of a similar nature.
      *Sighs*

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      • [Old Memory]
        6 years ago

        Be straightforward and ask her if she wants to be with you. So you will know for sure and start a relationship or move on.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          She told me that day that she can't give me what I want...she can't give me her full attention.
          She can't give me a relationship.
          Ha! She says she's "willing" to hold a friendship with me.
          I laugh at this as she doesn't say she wants one but is "willing".
          Secondly her idea of a friendship doesn't even exist for me.
          If I were to say yes, I would hear from her every few months if I'm lucky and see her once a year if I'm lucky. She has no idea the true meaning of a friendship.

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          • [Old Memory]
            6 years ago

            I feel you, I've been there... You need to find someone who will return your feelings. Love yourself so you can give love to others.

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      • [Old Memory]
        6 years ago

        So it seems she wants to be friends.

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  • _ItsScience
    6 years ago

    This happened to me, except, since I'm a girl, it was a guy that I was trying convey feelings for.
    In the end, his replies got shorter, less frequent and then non existent.
    And on the whole, I made sure not to "annoy" him by texting him once a week.
    That lasted two weeks. And my last message I sent him was three or four weeks ago, he hasn't replied since...or started a new conversation. I don't plan on sending him anymore texts.

    She's not worth your time. Find someone who will atleast reply to your texts.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      I'm sorry that this happened.
      I truly believe it is so unfair the way it's been created that a lot of the time feelings are never mutual.
      In fact it's actually rather cruel.

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