Being a virgin has nothing to do with being "more valuable" or having more self-respect, and choosing to have sex doesn't cheapen a person. It's just a highly personal choice, not one that signifies self-respect or the lack of it.
Putting virginity on a pedestal is just the flip side of slut-shaming (and if you don't know what that is, look it up). Don't do that. Not to men, not to women, not to virgins, not to non-virgins. Respect people's choices. We are all valuable.
OP, don't assume others are feeling pity or mocking you behind your back. I was a little confused by the way you wrote this; I'm not sure if your boyfriend is actually making fun of you in front of other people or if you're just afraid he will, but there's truly no shame in lacking experience. We all lack experience at something.
There is so much social pressure for people to lose their virginity that I think Sam equates being a virgin with having a sense of identity, and not being easy to influence/rushed into things. Which are admirable characteristics.
I don't think he means anything rude to those who aren't virgins. If you make a rational choice and choose to have sexual intercourse with someone, that doesn't make you any less valuable. On the other hand, sleeping around with anyone is typically unsafe... and in my opinion... dumb.
That's awesome, and if it holds value to you, that's certainly your right to feel that way. I don't include any aspect of sexuality as part of my value system and don't count it for or against someone no matter what's gone on in their bathing-suit areas, but I know some people feel differently.
I just wanted to offer a different perspective and point out that in an absolute, objective sense, virginity or the lack thereof doesn't have anything to do with "being more valuable."
Noone is "perfect" right... Some lie, cheat, steal, etc etc.how we appear and justify such issues is our perogrative.. That's why your name is proseAthelete and I'm Samcrow... Diff of opinion... Whose more right? That's not the case more so as to "agreeing to disagree"...
We have strayed so much from innocence, it is a new age, what is right today was scandalous yesterday... Wonder what tomorrow holds..... Uuuuhhh exiting!!
So in your opinion, I do not respect myself because I am not a virgin? And I have no value?
Jeez I work my ass off at law school, have been told I will make a successful lawyer, contribute to society, contribute to justice and liberty, make peoples lives worth living but screw it all. I am not a virgin so all my work (and the ridiculous amount of money I spent studying and training so I could change peoples lives for the better) basically goes to shit. I am not worth it because I enjoy to harmlessly and safely sleep with multiple partners.
IIN I feel people makes fun of me because I am sexually inexperienced?
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Being a virgin has nothing to do with being "more valuable" or having more self-respect, and choosing to have sex doesn't cheapen a person. It's just a highly personal choice, not one that signifies self-respect or the lack of it.
Putting virginity on a pedestal is just the flip side of slut-shaming (and if you don't know what that is, look it up). Don't do that. Not to men, not to women, not to virgins, not to non-virgins. Respect people's choices. We are all valuable.
OP, don't assume others are feeling pity or mocking you behind your back. I was a little confused by the way you wrote this; I'm not sure if your boyfriend is actually making fun of you in front of other people or if you're just afraid he will, but there's truly no shame in lacking experience. We all lack experience at something.
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There is so much social pressure for people to lose their virginity that I think Sam equates being a virgin with having a sense of identity, and not being easy to influence/rushed into things. Which are admirable characteristics.
I don't think he means anything rude to those who aren't virgins. If you make a rational choice and choose to have sexual intercourse with someone, that doesn't make you any less valuable. On the other hand, sleeping around with anyone is typically unsafe... and in my opinion... dumb.
That's my personal opinion. Not placing virginity on a pedestal. However, virginity is still of some importance.... I think...
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That's awesome, and if it holds value to you, that's certainly your right to feel that way. I don't include any aspect of sexuality as part of my value system and don't count it for or against someone no matter what's gone on in their bathing-suit areas, but I know some people feel differently.
I just wanted to offer a different perspective and point out that in an absolute, objective sense, virginity or the lack thereof doesn't have anything to do with "being more valuable."
I believe we are all valuable. :)
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Noone is "perfect" right... Some lie, cheat, steal, etc etc.how we appear and justify such issues is our perogrative.. That's why your name is proseAthelete and I'm Samcrow... Diff of opinion... Whose more right? That's not the case more so as to "agreeing to disagree"...
We have strayed so much from innocence, it is a new age, what is right today was scandalous yesterday... Wonder what tomorrow holds..... Uuuuhhh exiting!!
So in your opinion, I do not respect myself because I am not a virgin? And I have no value?
Jeez I work my ass off at law school, have been told I will make a successful lawyer, contribute to society, contribute to justice and liberty, make peoples lives worth living but screw it all. I am not a virgin so all my work (and the ridiculous amount of money I spent studying and training so I could change peoples lives for the better) basically goes to shit. I am not worth it because I enjoy to harmlessly and safely sleep with multiple partners.
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Ok lawyer... Let me ask you, does a person lose value if they lie cheat and/or steal? are these not the "scumbags" you protect our streets from?