Thanks so much for the reply, i took lots away from it - when im in the outdoors or even at music festivals and im much more free and there are no mirrors around - those are the times im at my most confident. I will try and forget my 'outside' and even be happy my life isn't easy (who's is!).
I think your idea of spending more time outside is a great one. When we're indoors, the subconscious feels physically encased by society's rules and standards, but outside of the confines of humanity, in nature, we feel free and individual, as we're supposed to feel. It's too bad mirrors were ever invented in a way, because from the first time we peer into one our own physical appearance will forever be part of our self-image and affect our self esteem. Suddenly, we're not just "who" we are, we're "what" we are physically too. It's like our personality splits in two, and there's a new version of the self created, one that observes from the outside and judges us.
When we're away from mirrors and cameras and hair products for a while, we begin to revert to our infantile self-image, at least in momentary bouts. I think it's really healthy to just let go and play and leave behind self-consciousness sometimes. I think before kids develop self-consciousness they feel more like they ARE the world rather than just an observer of it. That's why they act so freely, or to adults rather foolishly/randomly. They aren't mindful of how they come off to others, they're just out there enjoying the world outside of the self.
IIN I feel like I have a billion things wrong with me?
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Thanks so much for the reply, i took lots away from it - when im in the outdoors or even at music festivals and im much more free and there are no mirrors around - those are the times im at my most confident. I will try and forget my 'outside' and even be happy my life isn't easy (who's is!).
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You're welcome. I'm happy to help :)
I think your idea of spending more time outside is a great one. When we're indoors, the subconscious feels physically encased by society's rules and standards, but outside of the confines of humanity, in nature, we feel free and individual, as we're supposed to feel. It's too bad mirrors were ever invented in a way, because from the first time we peer into one our own physical appearance will forever be part of our self-image and affect our self esteem. Suddenly, we're not just "who" we are, we're "what" we are physically too. It's like our personality splits in two, and there's a new version of the self created, one that observes from the outside and judges us.
When we're away from mirrors and cameras and hair products for a while, we begin to revert to our infantile self-image, at least in momentary bouts. I think it's really healthy to just let go and play and leave behind self-consciousness sometimes. I think before kids develop self-consciousness they feel more like they ARE the world rather than just an observer of it. That's why they act so freely, or to adults rather foolishly/randomly. They aren't mindful of how they come off to others, they're just out there enjoying the world outside of the self.
I hope you're doing OK :)