Is it normal i feel guilty for ending the friendship completely

Hello. I wondering if anyone has been in the same situation as me. My bf had a couple friends whom he spent a great deal of time with and as a result, I became friends with them too. The whole time we ever hung out though, I felt awkward and like a didn't quite fit in. My social anxiety was so bad around them that it was often hard for me to say anything around them. They would often talk crap about a lot of people, some of which I knew and thought were good people so I guess I just put my guard up right away. But to make a long story short, we would all hang out together like every other weekend and I did consider them friends. I never understood why they never contacted me to hang out though. I assumed they just didn't like hanging out without my bf there. (There's a girl in this friend group) and she never made any efforts to contact me to hang out or engage in any meaningful conversation. I did try to talk with her through text but she didn't reply. Anyways, this summer, my house was flooded and completely destroyed and these same "friends" never contacted me or expressed any condolences to me. They live very close to me. I decided to end the friendship because I was so dissaspointed that they really cared so little for me. I have done nice things for these people, spent so much time with them, so much energy trying to talk to them and understand them and be kind to them and I can't help but think that they just don't like me and are talking crap about me too. I feel an intense guilt for ending the friendship because my bf still wants to hang out with them but I beg him not to. It just seems so wrong. How can he want to be around people who seem so heartless?

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  • imadick

    you have to understand there was no friendship to begin with

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  • mia500

    You deserve to have fulfilling relationships in your life and should leave out anyone who doesn't fit your standards.

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  • RoseIsabella

    You will probably need to break up with the boyfriend too.

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