I have heard this before. The answer is no, you are not entitled. There is no such thing as entitlement to cheat. You have two options:
1) Being loyal: Is good for both you and your husband, risk-free and leads to long-term happiness
2) Cheating: Good only for you (better than #1, and that is why it is listed here), bad for your husband and toxic for your relationship. Risky and irreversible. You can get away with it, but it may have other effects, such as stress from hiding it.
Nobody can tell you which option to pick, because this depends on a lot of factors in your relationship (and beyond it), so you can choose whichever you prefer. But regardless of your choice, it is nonsensical to mix them up and say you pick the "bad" (so-called bad but it depends) option and pretend it's the "good" one. That means you cannot understand what you are doing and you don't know what to expect, and this leads to unhappiness.
You can choose the second option and you can say "I cheat because I want to feel good, but I am aware that it's bad for the relationship". But you can't say "I cheat because I am entitled so I know it's bad but I lie to myself that it's good". It doesn't make any sense.
The second option may sometimes be justified by other factors such as being already cheated on, or being unhappy and forced to stay in a relationship or so, and you might want to give a reason to it or simply do it because of the sexual desire, which at least makes sense. But cheating purely because there is a chance for him to cheat is totally absurd. In the same way he should do the same and that's how you ruined the relationship without even having a reason for it.
Think about your choice before you make it. Are you a good liar? Are you good at handling stress? Does it make you feel better? Do you want a long-lasting and/or stable relationship, or a way to have fun and play risky games? Make sure you know exactly what you're doing and why. That kind of thinking mixes things up completely so you can get caught very easily, which is bad if you picked #2.
I noticed that people who have this kind of thinking and encourage others to do it are suffering from being cheated on. This determines them to reach such a conclusion. This is a clue that they are acting impulsively and the conclusion is biased. What they could say correctly instead is: "I cheat because I was cheated on and I want it fair". This is logical, although not favourable if you ask me. But cheating because I am entitled to is incorrect in any situation simply because it doesn't make sense. It's like saying: "I am entitled to do anything I want because I might be a victim one day. So I am entitled to kill, rape, steal or anything else I want".
Do whatever you want, but assume it properly and make sure you are fully aware of what you do, if you want to be happy with your choice. And, of course, think about the consequences. Will it make you actually obtain what you want? Will you be able to face the worst-case scenario (being caught)? Are you just using it as an excuse, while we all know the reason (lust)? If yes, why are you still using such an ineffective excuse? Answer all the possible questions before making a move. Being cautious is always good.
IIN I feel entitled to Cheat on my Husband?
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I have heard this before. The answer is no, you are not entitled. There is no such thing as entitlement to cheat. You have two options:
1) Being loyal: Is good for both you and your husband, risk-free and leads to long-term happiness
2) Cheating: Good only for you (better than #1, and that is why it is listed here), bad for your husband and toxic for your relationship. Risky and irreversible. You can get away with it, but it may have other effects, such as stress from hiding it.
Nobody can tell you which option to pick, because this depends on a lot of factors in your relationship (and beyond it), so you can choose whichever you prefer. But regardless of your choice, it is nonsensical to mix them up and say you pick the "bad" (so-called bad but it depends) option and pretend it's the "good" one. That means you cannot understand what you are doing and you don't know what to expect, and this leads to unhappiness.
You can choose the second option and you can say "I cheat because I want to feel good, but I am aware that it's bad for the relationship". But you can't say "I cheat because I am entitled so I know it's bad but I lie to myself that it's good". It doesn't make any sense.
The second option may sometimes be justified by other factors such as being already cheated on, or being unhappy and forced to stay in a relationship or so, and you might want to give a reason to it or simply do it because of the sexual desire, which at least makes sense. But cheating purely because there is a chance for him to cheat is totally absurd. In the same way he should do the same and that's how you ruined the relationship without even having a reason for it.
Think about your choice before you make it. Are you a good liar? Are you good at handling stress? Does it make you feel better? Do you want a long-lasting and/or stable relationship, or a way to have fun and play risky games? Make sure you know exactly what you're doing and why. That kind of thinking mixes things up completely so you can get caught very easily, which is bad if you picked #2.
I noticed that people who have this kind of thinking and encourage others to do it are suffering from being cheated on. This determines them to reach such a conclusion. This is a clue that they are acting impulsively and the conclusion is biased. What they could say correctly instead is: "I cheat because I was cheated on and I want it fair". This is logical, although not favourable if you ask me. But cheating because I am entitled to is incorrect in any situation simply because it doesn't make sense. It's like saying: "I am entitled to do anything I want because I might be a victim one day. So I am entitled to kill, rape, steal or anything else I want".
Do whatever you want, but assume it properly and make sure you are fully aware of what you do, if you want to be happy with your choice. And, of course, think about the consequences. Will it make you actually obtain what you want? Will you be able to face the worst-case scenario (being caught)? Are you just using it as an excuse, while we all know the reason (lust)? If yes, why are you still using such an ineffective excuse? Answer all the possible questions before making a move. Being cautious is always good.