Is it normal i don't want to get married or have children in the future?

The thought of marriage and having children just seems pointless to me. i do not believe in true love and i doubt that i will find "the one". maybe it's because i fear the experiences of what marriage and children will bring, but it's mainly because i am not interested in the idea.

i don't even want a partner.
all i want is to stay single forever and be happy.

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  • You and I think the same. I never want to be responsible for another person because honestly I’m just too mean and the whole idea of “the one” is nonsense. You understand me so well OP that I think we should get marr- oh wait.

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    • "... I'm just too mean..." I feel like doing bad things to you already 😉

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  • Absolutely. (Where is the poll to vote?)
    Children are soooo annoying. I can't stand ever hearing neighbor children what about having some in the house 24/7? Fuck dat!
    Marriage is for bitches. Who bow down to society to follow the threaded path and please others' expectations. Fuck dat!
    Partner? You'll quickly get bored and find out their annoying sides. Also all the household troubles that will come with sharing roof with someone else. It's so much better to meet chicks for casual sex and then - each on their own way.

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  • Yeah, of course. You should do whatever makes you happy.

    There are loads of threads about this on here, maybe have a look back through using the search. You might see something useful on there.

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  • If you are happy with this, I am happy for you. I am quite sure I'll remain single and childless forever, and I don't want to be. You are blessed, and I envy you, if you are happy in your singleness.

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  • Yes normal but remember having a partner is optional you don't have to resort to having one.

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  • Thank you, I am so glad I could help!

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  • What makes you think you're a sad piece of garbage? A lot of people have difficulty finding love, and keep in mind that there are also a lot of people settling who are not truly in love or happy, too, so there are a lot more people who haven't really found it yet than you probably think. It definitely does not make one a loser.

    Honestly though, focusing on other things right now is not a bad idea. One of those things should be building your self worth to where you don't base it off of whether girls take interest in you. I know this can be easier said than done, but you will feel a lot better. I had to learn to quit basing my own self worth on other people's opinions of me as well. You can focus on improving your life in any way you can, and you absolutely do not need anyone else's approval in order to have a happy and fulfilling life.

    Please don't think that just because you're single and haven't found love means you're less of a person. Like I said, a lot of people struggle with this, and most likely a lot more than you really think.

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  • Just be open to the fact that you could change your mind later and that would be ok too. That’s what I would tell my younger self as I don’t feel the same now that I’m in my 40s.

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  • I'm exactly the same way. It's not "the norm" per se, but there's nothing wrong with it and many people live happy and fulfilling lives without ever marrying or having children. As long as you're not hurting anyone, do what makes you happy.

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  • Humans aren’t meant to be monogamous and children ruin your life. Every single parent I know resents having kids whether they admit it or not. That’s why I just want a series of relationships lasting no more than 3-6 months each.

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    • If someone doesn't admit to something then how do you know that they feel it?

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      • They show it through their actions and other things they say. They don’t say it directly but they imply it in other ways.

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  • Be true to yourself.

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  • I had my first. Then didn’t want an only child, so had another. I at least look forward to having a family to take care of me when I’m an old bitch.

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  • It's normal alright. I decided at the age of 8 that I wasn't having children and have never wavered. I don't particularly want marriage either. I waited too long to get my freedom and I don't want to throw it away. As a single entity, I get to do what I want when I want with no hassle from a partner. I am asexual and have no desire for intimacy anyway. Neither do I like children.

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