Is it normal i don't get gossip

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I've seen people (and surprisingly, both male and female seem to gossip equally in my experience) be totally bitchy to someone who's not there at the moment. When the person does show up, I'm always surprised by how the bitchy persons attitude changes. I figure ohh some shits about to go down, but then the act all pleasant and apologetic about the thing they were just pissed off about before.

So, I think I've made a major faux pas the other day. I was (jokingly) bitchy to a persons face as everyone else was joking about the same topic I figured he was ok with it. He wasn't. Now I feel really fucking terrible, even though these people (offended guy included) say way worse shit about other coworkers when they're not around. I assume they are gonna do the same to me now, which is just awkward as fuck. I'd rather they state their complaints directly to me so that I may improve.

IIN? Is this a common workplace thing for people to roast each other behind their backs but doing it to their face is off limits? Personally, I wouldn't give a shit if someone ripped on me, and I feel like I really fucked up by assuming that everyone is like this.

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  • e51pegasi
    6 years ago

    In my experience people will bitch behind people's backs at work as they will do in your private life. Trust me if people are gossiping about other people behind their backs they will be doing exactly the same to you.

    People at work will always bitch/gossip/moan about anything & everything. Lack of overtime, the quality of coffee, the bosses sex life (or lack of) & a colleagues new hairstyle. Groups of women at work are the worst with each other, It was like working in a pit of vipers, thankfully there were only 3 or 4 men among 30 women who worked so we just let them get on with it.

    Light hearted piss yanking or banter is perfectly acceptable as long as if you are going to say something about somebody be prepared to say it to their face.

    I've always found people who gossip in private life lead very dull lives & feel the need to gossip/backstab to fill some emptiness they have in their dull vapid existences.

    Duplicity is one of the worst traits people can exhibit, avoid at all costs.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Tbh the gossip is a bit interesting as i did not originally see it as being "offensive", just informative. I figured they would say the same to people's faces, and that it's already been established publicly, so I didn't think it was a big deal to return the snarkiness. Apparently I crossed the line though (nothing major as far as i know but I'm kinda dreading seeing the person again).
      Anyway. it's like if you're gonna bitch about something and not do anything about it, that's kinda lame. But maybe I'm wrong. And I actually work with mostly guys.

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  • iraklitodadze11
    6 years ago

    its completely normal. and you know what? by the recent study, it says that intellectual people never gossip.

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