Is it normal i don't feel like i can't sexually recover after this?

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This is difficult to speak of. I had a busy life, as many Americans. In the beginning of 2011, I met someone while going out. Tall, handsome, just yummy (or so I thought). We started to have a FWB relationship. I started to like him, though I knew it was not reciprocated. One evening, we had a little too much to drink, and an accident occurred. When I found out that I was pregos, he flipped on me. He called me every name in the book, and said that I had planned this. That was obviously NOT the case. I didn't hear from him again. Six weeks later, I miscarried. I was alone.
Not a day in my mind goes by without thinking of how stupid I was for communicating with such a douche.
Prior to this, I enjoyed sex. I've had sex twice after this, and it was not good. I love men. Their look. Their smell.
It's just getting difficult, because I generally avoid men trying to talk to me though the urge is still there. I went to counseling, though it didn't do anything for me.
Words of wisdom?

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  • DavidS.
    11 years ago

    that sucks....sorry about your experience....dont rush it....youll heal...time heals most things....

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    I am very sorry this happened you. You probobly feel horrible since he was using you. He sounds like a real dick. Some guys are too lazy to take some fucking responsibility for the things they do. I am not a woman but I find it annoying when people do not take responsibility for this kind of shit. Next time I think you should hold something over him so you can sue them in court. Nothing you can do about this kind of thing. Some people are just children and should not be allowed to have sex. It sounds like you found an immature little fuck that can not take responsibility for the things he does. This is not your fault so do not blame yourself for it.

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  • quentari
    11 years ago

    It's not your fault and it's normal that this has traumatized you. Just give it time and don't try to force it

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  • hellofrompa
    11 years ago

    Thank you for all of your advice. I will definitely take it to heart

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  • DADNSCAL
    11 years ago

    Being a man, I could never fully relate to what you're going through. But being a therapist, your reaction to this trauma is understandable, First thing you can do for yourself, however, is to stop beating yourself up for a mistake. You can get over this. Maybe you need some meds for a while, to help you. Sincere best wishes.

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  • Phycokitty
    11 years ago

    I have the same problem or i did i was with my ex 2 years when oops i was prego i was devistated when he dumpd me at 7 months prego i was alone no one to share the joy of the babys movement no one to stay with me in the hospital no one to help me when i hadnt slept in days and it seemd the screaming wouldnt end. it hurt i was into guys and no lack of offers to be my babys daddy but i just physicaly couldnt get exited even if i wanted them i didnt get wet. i did find a man eventualy whom does turn me on but it wasnt untill after i learnd he was in love with me and i know he is a decent man he has been a freind of the family for a long time he older but ... my point is you may not get past the hurt but you can move on

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  • captainpooppants
    11 years ago

    Might be crazy to get advice from a 17 year old, but I think you should just take a break from dating for a while to focus on you, and to not cover up your feelings by moving on like it was nothing. Having a miscarriage is a huge pill to swallow. You should acknowledge your mistakes and learn from them. Just because we make mistakes doesn't make us evil or bad just makes us human and we all make them. I'm sorry for your lost and I hope for the best hun. :)

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