IIN I don't associate (romantic) love with marriage

I get what you're saying %100. Love is only part of it. Once you get past the "honey moon" stage and you are left to really look at your partner, that's what really counts. If by the end of all the passion you are fighting and can't stand that person then it all means nothing. What you described is a sort of love to. You can love your friends and family without all the intimacy. I always say, essentially you want to be marrying your best friend. Someone who loves you in a "I'll do your dishes for you and cook you dinner today because I know you've had a rough week" kind of way. Basically they care that you are having a rough time and they want to help...because..well..they love you. I think people are maybe looking at your post the wrong way. Or maybe I am? haha