Is it normal i don’t feel any guilt or remorse for my dead friend?

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Let me say a few things first,

I don’t actually know if he’s dead or not, we had one of our big daily fights and he deleted me as a contact.

I’ve been friends with this person for roughly 10 years. We have a long distance friendship, I live in the states, he lives in Europe.

Now my friend and I both have our share of mental disorders, but he had clinical depression and committed to suicide, he constantly said he was broken, had no chance in life, wouldn’t even bother to hear my support.

He also emotionally abused me and treated me like life support, (he cared about me, but nothing I was into at all) a lot of people have told me to leave the friendship, but I felt bad about doing that this whole time.

I don’t know if something is wrong for me for not feeling guilt or remorse for him maybe being dead or maybe I actually shouldn’t because he as kind of a shittyperson to me?

I should add, I’m blocked and deleted elsewhere too because we didn’t talk on other platforms so he decided to just block me.

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  • jellydew
    6 years ago

    Are you sure you two are only friends?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Well, I’m homosexual, so I couldn’t feel anything more than just a friend. He did once tell me he liked me and hated that I was into girls. But anytime I bring it up now he calls me stupid and jokes about it.

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  • russellnb
    6 years ago

    You tried to support your friend who did not want to hear it. You did what you could. Try not to regret too much. I had a friend like that although she treated me great still she kept using drugs ad getting into abusive relationships and now she is dead. I tried a lot but in the end I learned that you can only help people who want to be helped. I miss her but I remember the good tines we had. She was special.
    Time to let it go.

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