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Me and My Boyfriend have sex EVERY chance we get and its amazing. He always ask me for a blow job and I do it but I get really shy when I ask him to eat me out! And get shy when I want to have sex ,like he has to say something first. We've been together for longer than A year and idk why I get soo Shy ! I am a little insecure about getting eaten out. How do I overcome this ?
Can you change this a little bit at a time? For example, do you let him know verbally when he's doing something you're enjoying?
It's only a small step from that to asking him to do it more and more and more and I'll bet he'll love to know he's pleasing you so much.
Then you can move on to: "I loved what you did to me the other night, I'd love it if you did it again."
As for initiating sex, that was the hardest thing I found sexually when I first got involved with women, because we'd all been conditioned to let the other person take the initiative .... we learned though! There was a joke in the 70's we'd all crack up at, that most of us were going to end up with stuffed kidneys from sitting at kitchen tables drinking yet another cup of tea and hoping the other woman wd make the first move!
It does take a bit of practice but if you really want to change this you'll find a way, little step by little step.
Even telling him you're shy about initiating sex and asking for what you want wd be a good start and at least you'll have an idea of his possible reaction to you actually doing it.
Let us know how you get on!
I guess he is your first? It is normal, even for guys and they won't admit it.
As you have more sex it will become more normal and you will become more daring and want to try new stuff. No reason to rush it. Eventually you can try anal and all the other fun stuff. Just take it easy and when you are ready to, you will have the confidence and normality to talk about sex with him.