Is it normal i can't get over being rejected

Here it goes. I used to date a lady and we broke it off but remained friends and in touch.
She is now dating someone else and I was a bit taken by surprise and reacted badly to the news. Because I still have feelings for her.

She simply blocked me from any way of getting thru to her absolutely. I managed to get a message thru but she made sure I couldn't get to her again.

I had falling offs before, in different situations but this is killing me. She won't listen or try to understand my arguments.

I can't stand being rejected like this by someone who vowed to never stop being my friend.

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  • Cuntsiclestick

    Dude, as someone who used to act crazy like you are, it's not normal. You're not going to get anywhere by annoying her with your arguments. Yes breaking up and them cutting all contact after promising to still be friends hurts like a motherfucker, but harassing them is not the answer. Just move on with your life and make sure to not react this way in the future.

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    • Not harrassing but yeah, I have to move on. It hurts like hell though.

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  • RoseIsabella

    What do you mean when you say you reacted badly to the news? What are these arguments of yours to which you want her to listen?

    Try to treat this as a learning experience.

    No offense, but it really sounds like you're harassing her, because you're extremely jealous. When she asks you to stop or leave her alone, but you continue to try to contact her that's called harassment and or stalking. It's normal for a person to cut ties completely and block someone on all media if one is harassing and or stalking said person. Yes, I know it hurts; the sting of rejection feels terrible, but it's not acceptable to be unable to take no for an answer. We must all learn to respect the boundaries of others.

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    • I am not stalking or harrassing her. She didn't ask me to leave her alone. She just left mid conversation and blocked me from everything.

      BTW, we're both female.

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      • RoseIsabella

        What do you mean when you say you reacted badly to the news? What are these arguments of yours to which you want her to listen?

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        • Well she told me she wanted to focus on her career, and clear out her mind so that was why we couldn't be together. Then a month later she happens to fall for someone, and call this person her girl.
          I was flabbergasted...

          She also told me repeatedly I could count on her as a friend.

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          • RoseIsabella

            I'm sorry, but she probably lied to you. Even if she didn't lie at the time, ya'll are obviously not meant to be together.

            She's probably one of those people who's obviously very bad with confrontation.

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            • You're right. She lied about some stuff in the past. Also, I don't buy that "It's not you, it's me" line.

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          • JonathanOo

            I'm going through the same thing. I don't understand it all but I'm blocked and all too. Not a day goes by that I don't think about what I could've done differently or what I've done wrong. I guess it'll just take time. I thought we were going to be best friends forever and work through anything that goes on. I'm always stressed now:/ It's been months though already....

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            • I feel you. Guess we will have to let time heal our wounds...

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  • ojimpu

    It's done. The relationship is over. As a friend you can support her. Think about it. You two broke it off and you're getting back at her even after she's found another.

    Don 't you think it's also difficult for her when you keep hitting her up?

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    • I can't support her as a mate if she cut all means of communication between us. I can't even call her on her cell phone...
      :(

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  • Be a man. Stand up, accept the rejection, find another lady. A woman would like you for this attribute either

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    • I'm a woman.

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      • Oh, sorry. Then stand up and find another person. You deserve better. Don't question yourself if her behaviour is normal. She doesn't care about you anymore, why would you care about her? Move on and find another person who is treating you better. That's what I'd do.

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        • Thank you, I'm doing my best to get over her.

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