Is it normal i can't be attracted to someone until i know their personality?

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I can appreciate when someone is good-looking. I see guys who I know are gorgeous but I don't actually feel anything for them. Not a thing. It's as if I'm picking out an outfit or deciding what I want for lunch. There are no feelings involved, not even sexual ones. I can't really understand when people see someone and decide to approach them based solely on appearance. It just doesn't make sense to me because appearance isn't enough to get my attention. But as soon as I find out a bit about someone's personality, I don't look at them so clinically. If a guy fits my desired personality traits (funny, bordering on a bit goofy at times, sensitive, sweet etc etc) I will find myself attracted to him all of a sudden. Even guys who I think some women wouldn't call good looking, if he has a nice personality I'll be attracted to him, despite the fact that I wouldn't have given him the time of day before I got to see what he was like. I'm probably not explaining this very well but is it normal? And is there a name for this type of attraction?

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Im the same way. The term for this is demisexual.

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  • Aliceee93
    9 years ago

    Yes, an attractive guy is nothing without a good personality. For me he has to be funny :')

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  • Apple_guy
    9 years ago

    im a guy and im the exact same way. i can see a pretty girl and not think much but as soon as i see how she is (personality wise) and i like how she is i automatically want to marry them lol. okay maybe not marry them but definitely way more attracted to them, some times (most of the time lol) want to bang them :3

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  • Cikman
    9 years ago

    As for me, I noticed that person's personality, behaviour and alike stuff has become much more important with time and now appereance plays just a very tiny role, I could say it doesn't affect me at all, which is in some way boring even for me, but I feel better this way in fact. So yeah, I really think this is normal :)

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Well, I don't know how normal it is, but it certainly is admirable.

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  • Jeaneathean
    9 years ago

    When it comes down to it, the personality is definitely the more important trait.

    Look at all the (let's say) not conventionally attractive people in happy and successful long-term relationships.

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  • IMissMary
    7 years ago

    So you like the guy who laughs his way into women's pants.

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