Is it normal i can only fall in love in a neutral setting?

I have used dating apps on and off for years and gone on many dates. Usually I just feel meh about every man I meet.
Then I have realized I can only really fall in love with be attracted to someone I become familiar with. Someone things aren't forced with but I see them everyday, every other day or so. Like if we're co-workers or they work at my local supermarket or something lol. I'm not sure why as that doesn't necessarily mean that I know them but it creates, for me, a curiousty about them and for a person like myself (who is never comfortable anywhere lol) it makes me look forward to going somewhere and it wakes up my imagination.
It's very different from picking someone random out of a lump of matches on Tinder and be like "okay i'll pick this one to put effort into getting to know", chatting for a while and then meeting for coffee on the town. It's still a complete stranger whom I have no initial curiousty about and more likely than anything i'm sitting there with him because I had nothing better to do.
I have of course I haven fallen in love with men I met that way but certainly not often and it hasn't felt the same way. Once I learn to be confident and open I hope to meet someone in a neutral setting and in a good pace, getting to know each other first without any pressure for anything sexual or romantic. Because I feel that if you meet on a dating app there's always that pressure since you go on a dating app for a reason so if you're like "nah" the other party gets annoyed and start asking "why were you on Tinder then?" which is a question i've recieved so many times. But now I havent used it in a long time and focus on myself.