Is it normal i am 27f and never had a relationship?

I came out about 5 years ago and for the last say 4 years have tried to find a gf but can't.
I have been to lgbt events and tried every app under the sun.
I get matches but women don't reply or if the odd one does, they usually are looking for something else or just stop replying.
A lot are into open relationships and polygamy and hook ups where om wanting a gf to spend time with and I am monogamous.

Tips please ? I have also tried lgbt clubs but not my cuppa tea :/

I had a hook up with a women off an app as well and dated her for 1 month but sadly she was unstable and we ended.

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  • Millie_the_evil_saint

    Do you have hobbies or things you like to do with other people? When you pursue that, I find that I naturally run into people who find me attractive and people I am attracted to. (I am bisexual and monogamous). And I haven't really gone to any specific LGBT meetups or anything. I just pursued my own passions and the things I liked doing.

    It is harder to find women who are also into women, but we are out here haha. Just try flirting with women you fancy, I guess. If they respond well, they're probably into women too. If they respond neutrally or with surprise, that's a pity but she's hetero or ace(or just not that into you). Just shrug it off and try again. If they respond badly, you just saved yourself from investing too much time into a relationship with a shitty person, so you know whom to avoid.

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    • Thanks very much well I had a cute encouraging with this chick at my local pet shop over 7 weeks ago when I picked up this semi ill reptike to look after and have.
      The boss gave me it :)
      Anyhow, I had noticed this chick when sh first started working there, she always looked kinda sad and reserved.
      I were talking with the boss whos hard case cheeky guy always cracking jokes and my sister were there, then the cute chick comes upto me confidently chatting away about the reptile.
      She even initiated banter so I wondered later on if she kinda liked me.
      I said to her that thr previous chick did a great job looking after the reptiles
      Her- Are you saying im not good enough? in a sassy playful tone
      Me- Ofc you are darlinng
      Her-Ooooah

      The following day, both bosses were there and she was more reserved and peeped over towards me at one stage and then looked down as soon as I looked over towards her.

      So CUTE 😍

      Lockdown hit my city so I didn't get to go back unless I wore my stupid mask and I can't tell if she recognized me as I stood at the door.

      5 days ago I rang the shop and asked to speak with Sara. I told her an update on the reptiles well being as well as saying that I have need nervous and find her sweet and wanted to ask for her number, and that maybe I can ask further reptile qs as I still have some questions.
      She had an unusual reply "Sure but so long as its about reptile questions and nothing more"...
      There was a bit more of the conversation until I put the phone down and felt hurt but happy at the same time.

      I texted her few days later saying its me and hopefully talk soon.
      No reply

      I texted her again few days after saying the following-

      "Hey Sara, sorry if it felt like I was bothering you or if I'm coming off as annoying, but I just wanted to say that i'm sorry if I made you feel uncomfortable with my comments during that last interaction we had. I would really love to get to know you if you're interested. If not, I understand your wishes, but I wouldn't mind being friends either. I hope you have a wonderful evening 😊

      NO REPLY, what the heck? Im so hurt..

      If it is the right number why not reply?

      Also in regards to your comment, I think there are a LOT of bi and queer women, just not a lot of stable and monogamous ones or people content in their sexuality.

      Sexuality is very fluid especially with women and its about the connection 🌟

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  • Cuntsiclestick

    Where do you live? If the women in your neck of the woods suck, perhaps it's time to move to an area where they don't suck. This is especially true if you live in a small area or an area where everyone is conservative.

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    • Hey cuntsicklestick you're still around!!
      I live in a very friendly lgbt area and probably the biggest city...however I am moving to a smaller city soon but who knows maybe I'll find love there haha

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      • Cuntsiclestick

        Maybe. A change of scenery might bring new people in the mix.
        :)

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        • I pray πŸ™

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  • Sanara

    I don't know what the error is, but lots of people struggle with dating

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    • Hmm okay I guess its normal

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