It is indeed nuts, and you should pack your bags. He'll probably beg for a second chance and go back to how he was before, but you shouldn't buy that. What you see now is the person he really is.
Maybe he genuinely believes that "all husbands do this out of love to their wives" because that's what he saw growing up. Is his father a demanding, abusive, perfectionist asshole as well?
Or maybe your husband is just a perfectionist idiot who thinks that doing everything absolutely "right" (which is very often based on nothing more than his opinion) is what he needs to do in order to be respected and loved.
Or maybe he's OCD.
In any case, what you describe is disrespectful, manipulative, and abusive at best. But there's a hint of something even worse that might come in time.
Does he try to keep you away from other people, and go nuts if you ever talk to another man for any reason? Does he gaslight you - claim you said things you know you never did, or say he told you things that you know he never mentioned? In other words, does he make you question your understanding of reality?
Any of those things is a huge red banner, and you definitely should leave immediately if any apply. People in relationships with psychopaths get beaten down so much that they can completely lose their own identity. It can take years to recover, and sometimes it never happens.
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It is indeed nuts, and you should pack your bags. He'll probably beg for a second chance and go back to how he was before, but you shouldn't buy that. What you see now is the person he really is.
Maybe he genuinely believes that "all husbands do this out of love to their wives" because that's what he saw growing up. Is his father a demanding, abusive, perfectionist asshole as well?
Or maybe your husband is just a perfectionist idiot who thinks that doing everything absolutely "right" (which is very often based on nothing more than his opinion) is what he needs to do in order to be respected and loved.
Or maybe he's OCD.
In any case, what you describe is disrespectful, manipulative, and abusive at best. But there's a hint of something even worse that might come in time.
Does he try to keep you away from other people, and go nuts if you ever talk to another man for any reason? Does he gaslight you - claim you said things you know you never did, or say he told you things that you know he never mentioned? In other words, does he make you question your understanding of reality?
Any of those things is a huge red banner, and you definitely should leave immediately if any apply. People in relationships with psychopaths get beaten down so much that they can completely lose their own identity. It can take years to recover, and sometimes it never happens.