Is it normal he's frustrated he can't get me off?

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For a start, we've only been seeing each other a few weeks, and we don't normally have much time or privacy, but when we're together, it is a massive turn on and I'm always really enjoying myself. However, it is a tiny bit off putting that he's frustrated that he can't make me orgasm (we don't have sex, or use toys) because for me, it's all about the sexual pleasure, and I know that if I do orgasm, it will be great, but I'll lose my sexual arousal.

Also, rarely has a guy ever made me orgasm (they haven't been bad, I just take a lot of effort to get off, even when I'm alone) and I keep telling him that, but he's a bit frustrated and wanted me to stroke myself while with him so I could have an orgasm (which I can't orgasm to just touching myself).

We do have a lot of fun, but also, he doesn't want to receive an orgasm either, he just wants to pleasure me, so it feels a tiny bit double standard - despite it being in my favour.

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  • TrustMeImLying
    8 years ago

    it's this fictitious mental block some men seem to have by default that a chick MUST always orgasm to enjoy sex. (and in a way you cant blame that thinking given that our frame of reference is our own experience)

    maybe show him an article that states women can/still enjoy themselves without an orgasm. because otherwise he probably thinks you're only saying that to make him feel better (unless it's an ego thing to get you off, in which case, good luck). it might help if you say that you enjoy foreplay more (which is a common truth). I say tell him some of your buttons, or some your favorite positions etc... he could then focus on doing those things whenever he wants that sense of reciprocation.

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    I know it's hard to understand, but that sort of thing can really cripple a guys self-esteem.

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  • thefuckup
    8 years ago

    Why? Just why?

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  • (s)aint
    8 years ago

    You should show him how you do to make you orgasm.He should not stress you about it and ask you how it's going and why it's not working -_- Had an ex like that (First boyfriend) and it ruined me for years.
    Being aroused is awesome, but being aroused and knocked out sweaty at his side is more awesome.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      In all honesty, I don't know how to show him to make me orgasm, and what would make me orgasm is stuff we don't do / don't have available.

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      • (s)aint
        8 years ago

        Care to give an example?

        If you are not having that kind of sex you would fancy then that might be an issue.

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