Is it normal guy i met online says he wants to visit, marry me, etc

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I met this guy five years ago and we chatted pretty much every day for a long time. In the beginning, I didn’t know what he looked like or even that he was a guy. We were just friends.

After a while, I saw selfies of him, we were both mutually attracted to each other.we texted and talked on the phone all the time. He said things like he wanted to come see me or that he’d try to find s job close to me as he’s a few states away from where I live but still in the same time zone. Eventually, this progressed to him saying he’d marry me and wanted to have a family.

Now he ignores me for months at a time only to pop back up every once in a while. Is this normal? I don’t know what to do.

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    5 years ago | pl

    He seems to have lost interest but wants to string you along as some sort of backup. You're better off just cutting him out of your life.

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    • Zeikfried
      5 years ago

      There might be some truth to what you're saying but ouchh

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    • RoseIsabella
      5 years ago

      Amen to that!

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Sounds a bit weird to be honest. I'd be a little bit wary around him, as it sounds like he's very fickle and likes to act impulsively and irrationally. That's just my opinion though, so don't take it the wrong way!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      I’m thinking I’ll say something next time he decides to text or call me. He acts like nothing is wrong and is back to being all sweet and romantic to me when he pops back up. It’s odd.

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  • IrishPotato
    5 years ago

    It sounds like he lost interest, or has gotten a different girlfriend.

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  • Zeikfried
    5 years ago

    I've never experienced something like this before but I have a number of friends I only talk to every once in a while so it's not that weird for me. In other words, it's either you're not that special to him anymore or he's looking for someone "easier" to get. Guys tend to want easy. That said, there's really no way to know for sure unless you ask him. Goes something like "We used to talk so much and stuff, why is it that I rarely get to talk to u..etc." Then you'll know for sure.

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  • LoveDenise
    5 years ago

    When you mean call do you guys video chat before? If not those pics can be fake sounds like a “CATFISH” and also he could be a creep so be CAREFUL if yall do someday meet! He could be anybody you never know!

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    5 years ago

    I wouldn’t call it a relationship by any means but I definitely got attached to the guy. He said he wanted to meet me this summer or fall but has been ignoring me for like two weeks now which isn’t uncommon.

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  • myfreakinopinion
    5 years ago

    Someone whom is batshit crazy, 🏃.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    This is called ghosting. I've been there.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Yeah. I don’t know. I don’t go out of my way to interact with him but he will occasionally message me and tell me how he’s so into me and whatnot. It’s very strange.

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      • [Old Memory]
        5 years ago

        Beware of emotional manipulation. You need to analyse the relationship to see if you didn't idealise him.

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  • lordofopinions
    5 years ago

    I bet he has at least one other woman on the line. If he is ignoring you for that long a time all of a sudden I would suggest moving on.

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  • leggs91200
    5 years ago

    online relationships are a dime a dozen. Every time my room mate gets into one, she thinks it is true love for REAL this time. It is not even entertainment anymore, it is like watching the same old reruns.

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    • IrishPotato
      5 years ago

      Mine is turning out swell, I'm moving over there in her country this year.

      Our 2 year anniversary is today.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Yeah, I have to agree. I’ve never had anything like this happen to me before and definitely agree they’re usually bullshit and I’m no exception. I think I probably got too attached for what it is or was.

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