Thanks. I’ve been told I’m a funny guy.
Find then, let’s say that his generosity and selflessness is indeed a case of an “inflated ego”. Are you saying this is a bad thing? You sound like you stand for nothing, that the only beliefs you have are that having beliefs is a weakness. Stand for nothing, fall for anything.
And yes, his generosity harms him. His activity is constant and it makes it impossible for him to ever settle down or take a break. He used to be a super buff dude but traded the gym for more charity hours and slimmed up. He has a very nicely paying job but only works half time so all of the spending on others takes a tax on any sort of savings.
His heart is absolutely in the right place, he’s a godsend, sainthood worthy. BUT. It stopped being, “I want to help” and started becoming “I have to help” and that’s the trouble. He is in trouble. He doesn’t help himself enough and I’ve had my suspicions that he’s turned to stimulants to keep up with his schedule.
Not an inflated ego, just a regular ego.
Well, from what you're telling me, it seems to be a "bad" thing for him. You can help others without harming yourself.
Having beliefs is not a weakness itself, the weakness is thinking those beliefs are real. Reality does not care about what we believe or not. They're called beliefs for a reason. They are only real in our mind.
As you said, as soon as the "I want to help" became "I need to help", it's falling under the obsession side and is unhealthy.
Nothing good will come out of it for him and potentially for the people he is "helping".
You seem to be a smart fella, I think you understand.
Argh. I get your point and really you’ve just been agreeing with me this whole time. I’ve just been fussy about how you like to say certain things. And I think you’re morally absent but that’s besides the point.
I’m bathing in your compliments, really I am, you would’ve won yourself a big kiss by now if you weren’t such a sourpuss about everything else. I’ll think about all the sweet things you’ve told me tonight while I stroke my thick ego.
I know that moral is totally subjective and therefore can be highly problematic, so I try not to get involved in moral as much as possible.
I just don't sugarcoat most of the things I say. I'd rather be frank and not waste some time beating around the bush. Some people don't get it. I'm glad you do.
IIN guilt/vigilantism eating him alive
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Thanks. I’ve been told I’m a funny guy.
Find then, let’s say that his generosity and selflessness is indeed a case of an “inflated ego”. Are you saying this is a bad thing? You sound like you stand for nothing, that the only beliefs you have are that having beliefs is a weakness. Stand for nothing, fall for anything.
And yes, his generosity harms him. His activity is constant and it makes it impossible for him to ever settle down or take a break. He used to be a super buff dude but traded the gym for more charity hours and slimmed up. He has a very nicely paying job but only works half time so all of the spending on others takes a tax on any sort of savings.
His heart is absolutely in the right place, he’s a godsend, sainthood worthy. BUT. It stopped being, “I want to help” and started becoming “I have to help” and that’s the trouble. He is in trouble. He doesn’t help himself enough and I’ve had my suspicions that he’s turned to stimulants to keep up with his schedule.
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Not an inflated ego, just a regular ego.
Well, from what you're telling me, it seems to be a "bad" thing for him. You can help others without harming yourself.
Having beliefs is not a weakness itself, the weakness is thinking those beliefs are real. Reality does not care about what we believe or not. They're called beliefs for a reason. They are only real in our mind.
As you said, as soon as the "I want to help" became "I need to help", it's falling under the obsession side and is unhealthy.
Nothing good will come out of it for him and potentially for the people he is "helping".
You seem to be a smart fella, I think you understand.
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Argh. I get your point and really you’ve just been agreeing with me this whole time. I’ve just been fussy about how you like to say certain things. And I think you’re morally absent but that’s besides the point.
I’m bathing in your compliments, really I am, you would’ve won yourself a big kiss by now if you weren’t such a sourpuss about everything else. I’ll think about all the sweet things you’ve told me tonight while I stroke my thick ego.
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I know that moral is totally subjective and therefore can be highly problematic, so I try not to get involved in moral as much as possible.
I just don't sugarcoat most of the things I say. I'd rather be frank and not waste some time beating around the bush. Some people don't get it. I'm glad you do.