Is it normal for your "bff" to never directly inquire about your sick relative

Normail

Maybe she's not sure how comfortable you are with talking about your relative. Or maybe she went thru a similar situation and she doesn't feel comfortable talking about it maybe it brings up sad memories. She sounds like a good friend by telling you that she's there for anything you need. Font be annoyed by it be happy that she's there for you.

at least she ASKS if you're ok and leaves the other end open for you to talk about whatevers bothering you.. she's only trying to avoid what might be a sensitive subject for you to talk about. i'd be concerned if you were TRYING to talk to her about your sick relative and she didn't care.. that shows she's really selfish and doesn't want to/doesn't care about your feelings.. good luck.

My best friend's dad had cancer and my mom had me spend a lot of time with her but also made sure I would never bring it up in a conversation because it was really rude to ask to I think she's doing that to be polite

sounds like a good friend to me. You should be happy that she cares about your feelings.

They actually sound like a great friend. I wouldn't complain.

i agree w/ the comment above me. maybe she doesn't want to bring it up because she doesn't want to hurt u. but she's there if u need to talk about it.

Your friend is trying to let you know she cares without trying to make you upset by asking questions that may be upsetting. Please be patient and understand you have a great friend! Tell her in a nice way that it's ok for her to ask and i'm sure she will. But by asking you if your ok It's also her way of asking if everything is ok including your relative

Maybe your friend is trying to be considerate of your feelings by not bringing up a sensitive, emotional topic.
If you feel the need to talk about it with your friend, then just talk about it with them!

Normal, why would they give a crap about your relative they don't know.