Is it normal for sex to be initiated by one or both partners?

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My wife and I will have been married for 15 years as of May 23rd. It seems like, more often than not, that I initiate sex between she and I. She rarely initiates, and it irritates me. You would think the ratio would be 50/50, but it's much closer to 90/10. We're both in our mid 40's, and everything is pretty typical (2 teen daughters, 3 dogs, 4 cats, bills, etc).

Is it normal that I want her to initiate sex as often as I do?

I'd be good with 3-4 times a week, whereas she would be fine with that per month (if that).

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  • Talk_is_cheap
    10 years ago | pl

    Isn't that what marriage is all about -.-

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    • Talk_is_cheap
      10 years ago | pl

      Consider yourself really lucky your wife would "allow" herself to have sex 3 - 4 times a month with you.
      I've been with my wife for 17 years (10 married) so trust me; it will get worse before it gets better...

      Sorry pal

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  • quentari
    10 years ago | pl

    Studies have shown that working women who perform most of the chores around the house have a much lower sex drive than women who do less housework or don't work. She might be going through menopause. She might simply have a lower sex drive than you. There's nothing you can do about the last two but picking up the slack around the house might help if it's the first one

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  • Jeaneathean
    10 years ago | pl

    Talk to her about it?

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  • SouthGuy81
    10 years ago | pl

    Just be happy that, as youve been together for 15 years, you've obviously found someone you're compatible with in all of the other important ways. It's pretty rare that two people sinc up perfectly in sexual apatite. It's like with washing up. I know that if I let it build up for a couple of of days, my girlfriend would eventually do it but my tolerance for an untidy kitchen is lower than hers which means I end up doing most of the washing up. As long as she makes you feel wanted and appreciated in other, possibly non sexual ways it's all good.
    What's annoying is that if we try it on and they're not in the mood, we're made to feel bad for being pervs. But if they try it on and we're not in the mood, they make us feel bad because either like we don't think they're sexy or like we're not living up to our manly duties.

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