You could always tell them (nicely of course if they're customers) that you have a boyfriend. You don't say what they actually did: if it was just flirting, surely you can laugh that off?
You could well be over-reacting if the only time this has happened to you is twice in a month.
I did but he said it's fine he just wants to be friends, but I doubt it when he asked me first to go out for dinner.
I'm not over reacting. During Christmas a 50 year old was flirting with me in front of his wife saying he had a boat with my name and he could give it to me if I came over and had dinner with them.
And a two guys in their mid 30s asked if they could borrow me for a few seconds in the back of the store (to have sex).
Another guy in his late 30's tried to hold my hand when I was handing him his items. Like cupping the palm of my for longer than five seconds while talking when I opened my hand for him to take them. I had to turn my hand over and drop the items in his hand to break off the contact.
And in Jan another guy in his mid 40's kept asking me personal question while staring at my chest. Like how old I'm if I have a boyfriend, if I'm Christian, if I ever dated an Italian man.
And much more from further back in last year too but I think this is enough to show it happens too much.
And I had nothing happening in late Jan because I had break from work from being very ill.
I just didn't state these before because I didn't want to make my IIN post too long.
Idk, what they are doing isn't technically illegal but I do see what you're saying and agree with you. Especially a guy in his 40s, he should just look on craigslist or something if a 21 yr old is what he is looking for. I'm mid 30s and I would NEVER bother with a mid 20s female.
If it's meant as a compliment then I'll take it as a compliment.
Touching me when I don't want to be touched is definitely not a compliment. Saying such crude things to me and about me is not a compliment. And also staring at my boobs while talking to me is not a compliment, and way to perverted to be taken as one.
I've tried that with a mid 40's year old customer after hearing people telling me similar advice on this post, they just waited till I finished serving the line of customers, and started talking to me again in a very inappropriately manner, while trying to get my number. I even lied about having a boyfriend and he said he didn't care.
I can't just ignore a problem when it happens this often, and with out any respect to my body when making crude comments. Or my self as a person when they won't leave me alone unless I leave my station for a while till they get bored of waiting for my return and leave.
But I can't do that every time because I always got customers to serve and barely anyone to cover my desk.
We have different situations, I'm facing old to elderly men, crude and disgusting comments, not wolf whistles like you got. And inappropriate touching.
Different solution will suit our different situations. There's only so much that a person can tolerate. Everyone has their breaking point.
Sorry if I sound brash but I hope if you were a man in his 40's with a young daughter, that you wouldn't tell her to take the things I stated above as a compliment from a heap of old men as old or even older than you.
Thank you for understanding my situation.
Yeah it gets to be really inappropriate some times.
Okay I'll let my boss know, I don't know what they'll do about it, since our new boss doesn't like banning people from the store but hopefully they can keep the customer away from me if they come back.
Then tell his ass "please sir, you're holding up the line"
Nicely, and thats it.
Simply solved. Its not a big deal. Take it as a compliment. All sorts of people are going to find you attractive. And some people WONT find you attractive.
IIN for older men to ask me out?
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How can I be harsh with them if I'm working in customer service, with out the risk of losing my job? I would like to know for next time.
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You could always tell them (nicely of course if they're customers) that you have a boyfriend. You don't say what they actually did: if it was just flirting, surely you can laugh that off?
You could well be over-reacting if the only time this has happened to you is twice in a month.
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I did but he said it's fine he just wants to be friends, but I doubt it when he asked me first to go out for dinner.
I'm not over reacting. During Christmas a 50 year old was flirting with me in front of his wife saying he had a boat with my name and he could give it to me if I came over and had dinner with them.
And a two guys in their mid 30s asked if they could borrow me for a few seconds in the back of the store (to have sex).
Another guy in his late 30's tried to hold my hand when I was handing him his items. Like cupping the palm of my for longer than five seconds while talking when I opened my hand for him to take them. I had to turn my hand over and drop the items in his hand to break off the contact.
And in Jan another guy in his mid 40's kept asking me personal question while staring at my chest. Like how old I'm if I have a boyfriend, if I'm Christian, if I ever dated an Italian man.
And much more from further back in last year too but I think this is enough to show it happens too much.
And I had nothing happening in late Jan because I had break from work from being very ill.
I just didn't state these before because I didn't want to make my IIN post too long.
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Idk, what they are doing isn't technically illegal but I do see what you're saying and agree with you. Especially a guy in his 40s, he should just look on craigslist or something if a 21 yr old is what he is looking for. I'm mid 30s and I would NEVER bother with a mid 20s female.
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Thank you for understanding my point.
They wouldn't like it if really old women or people they're not attracted to kept hitting on them, would they.
who cares? some girls like older guys
just say no
life goes on? i dont know, shit
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No didn't work with the last one he held up the line because he was so persistent.
Yeah you have no idea how frustrating it is.
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I had a gay guy give me a whistle before
Or a shout out lol
I just take it as a compliment. Good for me haha
But if you need to get to business, just say so
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If it's meant as a compliment then I'll take it as a compliment.
Touching me when I don't want to be touched is definitely not a compliment. Saying such crude things to me and about me is not a compliment. And also staring at my boobs while talking to me is not a compliment, and way to perverted to be taken as one.
I've tried that with a mid 40's year old customer after hearing people telling me similar advice on this post, they just waited till I finished serving the line of customers, and started talking to me again in a very inappropriately manner, while trying to get my number. I even lied about having a boyfriend and he said he didn't care.
I can't just ignore a problem when it happens this often, and with out any respect to my body when making crude comments. Or my self as a person when they won't leave me alone unless I leave my station for a while till they get bored of waiting for my return and leave.
But I can't do that every time because I always got customers to serve and barely anyone to cover my desk.
We have different situations, I'm facing old to elderly men, crude and disgusting comments, not wolf whistles like you got. And inappropriate touching.
Different solution will suit our different situations. There's only so much that a person can tolerate. Everyone has their breaking point.
Sorry if I sound brash but I hope if you were a man in his 40's with a young daughter, that you wouldn't tell her to take the things I stated above as a compliment from a heap of old men as old or even older than you.
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Well I didnt know people touched you. Yea thats definately not needed
Smack their hand away. They'll quickly get the message haha
Doesnt matter if your at a job or not, people have to respect your boundries
Yea I understand you dont like being talked sexually to like that. I understand :) thats cool
awwww, well tell him then that you dont like that and obviously dont give him your number
yea obviously people cant expect girls to like that
maybe some whores or something XD
bunch of retards. i love girls, and i never talk dirty to them even if i find them attractive
obviously thats not how you start a good relationship
whatttttttt!! :o what a piece of shit! damnnnnnnnnn haha
that dude needs to be punched in the balls or something
like gtfo!
damn slap those niggas! dont let them touch your body if you dont want it!
hot damn, people would be dead if it was me
you dont have to put up with this shit
tell your boss or something! tell them customers are harrassing you
do something my girl!
yea and your breaking point should have been done already
i mean comments are just comments, but touching is where the shit stops
no im young, but yea i definately understand it makes you feel uncomfortable :/
awww, you gotta stop it though! i hope you do something to help yourself!
you can do it! it doesnt matter if its work or not
boundries are boundries, even at work, and people have to respect you
i hope you help yourself! good luck to you! you can do it!
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Thank you for understanding my situation.
Yeah it gets to be really inappropriate some times.
Okay I'll let my boss know, I don't know what they'll do about it, since our new boss doesn't like banning people from the store but hopefully they can keep the customer away from me if they come back.
Thank you, and I wish you all the best as well.
Then tell his ass "please sir, you're holding up the line"
Nicely, and thats it.
Simply solved. Its not a big deal. Take it as a compliment. All sorts of people are going to find you attractive. And some people WONT find you attractive.
Thats life.