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My 13 almost 14 year old son recently began taking his sister's clothes and wearing them(bra, panties, etc.). He keeps wearing the bra and panties, but this only started a few days ago, and his chest is growing dramatically as if he were growing breasts for the last couple of years as if he were starting to grow like a girl does. Is this normal?
That's unfair for him to take his sister's clothes. You should buy him his own pair of bras and panties!
^ You're thinking if gynocomastia. This is rare for teens however. If he's starting puberty, boys produce heightened amounts of oestrogen, forming very small breasts. They go away after a week or two, but the fact he wears girls clothes worries me. Best get a doctors opinion, just to make sure.
In my opinion, if he wants to wear girls clothing, let him. Just make sure that he knows it's not a good idea to carry it on into public. It's not as unusual as you might think, many boys do it out of curiosity and many adult males enjoy dressing as a female in their private time. It's harmless. Just please, I beg you do not hate him or make his life difficult over something like this. In my reading and line of work I've seen so many boys emotionally abused and even disowned/beaten for having an interest in girl's clothing.
I think it's normal for your son (HE IS NOT AN "IT" Tyler3737) to experiment with trying on girls clothes, and it doesn't make him gay or a transsexual. The breast issue is of concern and is a rare condition that males experience during puberty. It has to do with too much Estrogen. His doctor can remedy this with medication. If his behavior escalates and he continues to dress as a female, to the point where you become worried, take him to a psychiatrist, so he has someone "safe" to talk to. I wouldn't make an issue out of it with him, he is probably aware that his body isn't like other boys his age, and I'm sure he is uncomfortable in his own skin. Reassure him that you love him for who he is on the inside and that you always will. Puberty is already confusing enough, and then to have this on top of it...the poor guy, I'd be confused too.
^ignore him/her.
it is normal for a young boy to experiment with girls clothing. just the same as it is for a young girl to experiment with guys clothing. not every child does it, but theres nothing wrong with it.
however, the thing with the breasts. there is a condition where males do develop breasts, i can't remember what it's called though. take him to a doctor to get a diagnosis.
If your son needs a professional bra fitting, then take him. If he is developing breasts and you are embarrassed by the "condition" your son has, Thats on you. He is your son as much as your daughter is. If he has found it more comfortable by wearing his sisters bras and stuff for support, you cant blame him for wanting matching bra and panties. If your son continues wearing female attire, so what if he is a crossdresser. There are much worse things in life. Whatever it is or was dont be so judgmental towards people that you dont know their situation, you dont know their medical condition, or maybe you do know and just are judgmental. I might be half a world away from you, my life probably will never cross your path in life, so if I tell you that at age 13 myself, I realized I was/am a crossdresser. I dont flaunt it, I attempt keeping it private, but yet Im sure there are those that are judgmental of me and who I am. You know what- I dont care.
I realize this post is over 4 yrs old, but I thought I would say a bit, first off if your son is developing or did develop breasts, that is known as Gynecomastia, there are a few reasons why young males will develop breasts. Now your son may also have associated bras with breasts, and him having a sister, maybe he is at a serious point of confusion. His mind is probably telling him he is male, his body and breast growth he is getting mixed signals to his brain. But with cases of Gynecomastia there are approx 40% of male population that have some degree of Gynecomastia. There are men that have breasts over and above the size of their wives or girlfriends. (38B-48DDD or even G and larger). (Gynecomastia. org). He may have found already that a bra supports breasts, it doesnt matter if breasts are on a male or a female. Its much better if you can just allow him to grow as a teen, and see if the growth does slow or subside. He is not a mutant, he is your son with a mild abnormality. Some say its a fault, some say its a deformity. Males with Gynecomastia already have a hard time with the social negativity, bullying, and Im pretty sure the sneering looks from people in public.
He could be transgendered which is fine. Him growing breasts could be a condition or like some of The users said due to contraceptives. Just be as supporting as you can and don't ask him in a accusatory manner.
is he taking contraceptive pils? it make guys grow boobies. talk to him and ask what's up then whatever it is that he confides in you, accept and don't judge.
A very close friend of mine struggled with this, he is 100% straight, he loves women. For whatever reason though, wearing women's clothing in private was something that made him happy, and I could see that he enjoyed it. However when his parents found out they started to become bitter and hateful over it, and they never let go of it. He was really damaged by how his parents turned on him like "our son is a freak" and would never treat him the same. It's a harmless thing for your son to enjoy doing, especially when there are such worse things out there. Please just offer him understanding as he figures himself out, love him and give him safety and confidence in his parents. He may be different, but he's still a human being.
Have him see a psychiatrist, he's a boy, he shouldn't be wearing his sister's clothes.