Is it normal for my partner to want me to'clean them up' after intercourse?

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I have a great sex life, its fulfilling , varied and we, my partner and I are uninhibited., atleast I thought I was.
Things were great but now after intercourse my partner always asks me to 'clean up', this is to be done oraly. I don't mind usually but sometimes there is alot of cum if we both ejaculated and I don't really want to but feel obliged .
is it normal to be in this situation and should I continue or just say no ?

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  • _Mehhhh_
    7 years ago | pl

    Just say no if you don't want to. You're not obligated to do any sex act you don't want to, "consent" doesn't mean "I'm down to do literally EVERYTHING", you can withdraw consent at any time.

    He can clean himself up

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago | pl

      My partner is female I am male, not that it matters.
      Thanks for the advice.

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      • wonderfulsubterfuge
        6 years ago | pl

        "Not that it matters"

        hmmm...yeah actually it kinda does

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago | pl

          Why does it matter she is female?
          just because of this I should do whatever she wants?

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          • wonderfulsubterfuge
            6 years ago | pl

            What I meant was that since most people will not assume you are male and your partner female, you could have thought to include this bit of information in the original post. To me it doesn't really make any difference either way, but it might to some people.

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  • MauriceLikesChicks1015
    6 years ago | pl

    If she wants you to clean it up by her pussy or whatever just do it after the both of you are done together ;)

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  • Yhertay
    7 years ago | pl

    Then say no. Or tell them if they want to fuck, they can take turns cleaning up afterwards. What a lazy bastard they are.

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago | pl

    If you don't want to do it then don't?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago | pl

      But I do love her and she does the same for me to and it does feel great.

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  • iwannajerk4you
    6 years ago | pl

    I like that she wants her to be locked afterwards
    I'm totally swelling of her asking let alone demanding it

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  • Queer69
    6 years ago | pl

    Your just scared to eat your own sperm...be a man and give her the pleasure she deserves.

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  • CreamPuffs
    6 years ago | pl

    That's ridiculous. You shouldn't let her boss you around.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago | pl

      I know but I love her and she's beautiful intelligent and more. I love our sex life and I LOVEthat she can ejaculate frequently, I don't want to rock the Boat much in the sex life department. I especially dmmt want to explain tm her about the large amount of ejaculate there often is as this could make her control it or stop it and it is one of the things I absolutely love about her. Also she may stop swallowing my sperm.

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      • CreamPuffs
        6 years ago | pl

        Then tell her you'll only do it sometimes. Say "look, you ejaculated with me a lot this time. I don't want to lick you out today. Maybe some other time."

        Also, ejaculation is not something one can simply control or stop. Maybe it's different for guys, but when I'm turned on enough, I orgasm regardless if I try to hold it in or not.

        Final point, isn't it fair for you to swallow her cum if she swallows yours? If she does not do it every time neither should you.

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  • finn
    6 years ago | pl

    Can't a wet cloth do the trick?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago | pl

      A wet cloth is hardly the same as an eager experienced mouth , is it ?

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    6 years ago | pl

    LOL if you read again I am talking about us cleaning each other's private parts oraly after intercourse. It seems to ad a massive turn on for her and in getting into it myself as it feels so good for me too.It just sometimes she ejaculates so much that its too much for me .

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    6 years ago | pl

    Unfortunately she can't clean her own vagina. I asked her to try once but no chance.

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    • charli.m
      6 years ago | pl

      ...she can't clean her own vagina...

      Is she immensely obese? Does she not shower? Rag on a stick?

      Jesus.

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  • fluffy1uv
    7 years ago | pl

    Yeah it's normal for them to want you to but it isn't okay for you to do it anyway. Just tell them you don't want to. They're probably gonna feel really bad for asking in the first place

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