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I'm a 21 year old guy, I think its odd I'm still expected to save it for marriage. I have to lie about sleeping over with my girlfriend and still get hints about how I shouldn't take it too far, like when I had just started dating. Anyone else around my age go through this?
They can have their expectations but that doesn't mean you must live up to them. You're an adult now and you get to decide what sort of sex-life is right for you. You don't have to involve them in that decision either.
To answer your question; no, it doesn't seem normal for them to expect that. Really, though, it would depend on your culture.
Its not normal saving it for marriage is retarded you supress sexuality and waste valuable opportunities theres nothing wrong with sex.
Well they can advice what they think is right for you but it's not supposed be like an order or something. Parents can't decide for you, you're 21!
It's your life to live as you please. Tell your folks that they have their own lives to live as they please, but you make the choices about yours, now that you are an adult. Stop lying; be honest and rely on your own good judgement to make decisions.
Your parents just want what's best for you. You can choose to defy their wishes or you can be the son your parents always wanted. What's more important to you, losing your virginity or keeping your parents' love, trust, and respect?
Well, waiting to have sex after marriage wasn't unusual back then. If you don't want to, I don't think you have to. It is really up to you.
Im here to tell u Im in the same boat as you and its not ridiculously weird as people are trying to tell you. The real issue is how much are they pressuring you, and what the real issue is. they may just be worried about you getting some girl pregnant or it could be a religious issue like they said. All parents worried that their young adult will go wild in college and end up making a mistake.
As long as you have made peace with your decision and know your being safe it really isn't their business what you do in private , but if it's bothering you personally, contemplate why it bothers you so much what your parents think. and why you're feeling guilty
It would help to know what culture your parents come from. This is insanely normal in some parts of the world, and insanely abnormal in others.
Not normal. That's downright weird. They could be religious fanatics that are too insecure to examine independent thoughts.
I can't give a yes or no on this! But in My travels of sexuality it's a crapshoot. Sometimes if a guy is shy it's a lot more difficult for Him to loose the "V" card with women. Often time they don't know which way You "swing the bat" or if they catch wind You still carry the "V" card they'ed rather just be friend with You and out You as a wanker (which may still be taboo, IDK) I've had to admit to the latter a bit! But that's why My name looks the way it does because I've decided it as My orientation. I'm attracted to women, I just really don't want to take them home! I'm just to scared of what's behind their curtains.
yeah.. im in the same boat as dickwashington. Im surprised your family is wanting you to abstain from sex as a 21 year old guy. your parents must be muslims or some anal devout retarded religion.