The bottom line seems to be that you've tried living with the guy, and that has highlighted all sorts of issues that are problematic for you. Those aren't only directly related to him, his view of life, and his priorities, but also the dynamics of his family and how well you and his parents can relate.
He is only 19, so he still has some maturing to do, but you have to assume that his father will never change from how he is now. You'd also be wise to assume that your boyfriend will be under his father's thumb for some time - maybe forever - even if you were to get a place of your own.
I know it's easy for me to say since I'm not you and I don't have your feelings for the guy, but I've been in situations that have some similarity. Regardless of your feelings, the reality is that the signs just ain't good, and you should seriously consider if you want to stay in this relationship.
In the short term, it's his parents' home, and so you have to accept their rules. If those are difficult for you to deal with - and it sounds like they are - then you have to decide which is more important to you: living with the guy, or being more free to do what you want.
IIN for my fiancé to act this way?
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The bottom line seems to be that you've tried living with the guy, and that has highlighted all sorts of issues that are problematic for you. Those aren't only directly related to him, his view of life, and his priorities, but also the dynamics of his family and how well you and his parents can relate.
He is only 19, so he still has some maturing to do, but you have to assume that his father will never change from how he is now. You'd also be wise to assume that your boyfriend will be under his father's thumb for some time - maybe forever - even if you were to get a place of your own.
I know it's easy for me to say since I'm not you and I don't have your feelings for the guy, but I've been in situations that have some similarity. Regardless of your feelings, the reality is that the signs just ain't good, and you should seriously consider if you want to stay in this relationship.
In the short term, it's his parents' home, and so you have to accept their rules. If those are difficult for you to deal with - and it sounds like they are - then you have to decide which is more important to you: living with the guy, or being more free to do what you want.