I'm 51, and I've perhaps given up on dating, because people my age have a lot of baggage. When I was a young woman in my twenties I pretty much never dated dudes with kids, because... why? Now I'm not interested in dating anyone, because anyone my age probably has kids, most likely adult kids, but kids none the less. Regardless, my cat will always come first. A lot of people get offended, and want to make fun of people who say that their pets come first, but if someone else's kids come first for them then why can't my cat come first for me, or someone else's dog come first for them? I remember when we were in college my sister didn't have to live in the dorms, she got an apartment right off the bat, because she had this big rough collie, and she always said that her dog came first to everyone she met.
... and another thing, I don't much care for compromise, and that's something people have to do when they date, but honestly human companionship isn't that important to me. Besides all my life I've had the curse of being hit on by older guys, which has always disgusted me more than words can express, and now it's just beyond gross. I think it's okay to fly solo, I'm a pilot who can be her own navigator. The last person I dated was my age, handsome, and childless, but he turned out to be batshit crazy, and the one before him was about 8 years younger, but something about him felt kinda shady. It's slim pickings out there, and it only gets worse the older you get. It's like when you get to a clearance sale thirty minutes before the store closes.
Well said RoseIsabella. I can see how your point of view with dating is valid yes. Unfortunately compromise and negotiation is a part of most relationships. Even work relationships can be that way. Also I can understand the pet thing to a point but not everyone will think like that.
Most of what is driving the single parwnt stuff is the media as it perpetuate to women "I don't need a man" attitude. Its really disgusting to think somepne wants to raise children by themself. That is diffucult but also using a significant other as an ATM and a sperm donor is selfish in itself. I agree it is better to be happy and single then in a relationship miserable.
Yeah if I met someone who seemed perfect, but he didn't like animals it would have to be an automatic deal breaker for me, and cats always sleep in the bed.
I think when people have children they ought to put the children first, but I can't have children anymore, and I have no desire to adopt. I honestly don't want the responsibility. The truth of the matter is that I don't have a really strong desire to care for another person.
IIN for me to think for men that dating is high risk, low reward
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So just don't date those people.
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Easier said than done but this area tends to encourage single parenting. Yes it would be nice to find someone who is childless.
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I'm 51, and I've perhaps given up on dating, because people my age have a lot of baggage. When I was a young woman in my twenties I pretty much never dated dudes with kids, because... why? Now I'm not interested in dating anyone, because anyone my age probably has kids, most likely adult kids, but kids none the less. Regardless, my cat will always come first. A lot of people get offended, and want to make fun of people who say that their pets come first, but if someone else's kids come first for them then why can't my cat come first for me, or someone else's dog come first for them? I remember when we were in college my sister didn't have to live in the dorms, she got an apartment right off the bat, because she had this big rough collie, and she always said that her dog came first to everyone she met.
... and another thing, I don't much care for compromise, and that's something people have to do when they date, but honestly human companionship isn't that important to me. Besides all my life I've had the curse of being hit on by older guys, which has always disgusted me more than words can express, and now it's just beyond gross. I think it's okay to fly solo, I'm a pilot who can be her own navigator. The last person I dated was my age, handsome, and childless, but he turned out to be batshit crazy, and the one before him was about 8 years younger, but something about him felt kinda shady. It's slim pickings out there, and it only gets worse the older you get. It's like when you get to a clearance sale thirty minutes before the store closes.
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Well said RoseIsabella. I can see how your point of view with dating is valid yes. Unfortunately compromise and negotiation is a part of most relationships. Even work relationships can be that way. Also I can understand the pet thing to a point but not everyone will think like that.
Most of what is driving the single parwnt stuff is the media as it perpetuate to women "I don't need a man" attitude. Its really disgusting to think somepne wants to raise children by themself. That is diffucult but also using a significant other as an ATM and a sperm donor is selfish in itself. I agree it is better to be happy and single then in a relationship miserable.
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Yeah if I met someone who seemed perfect, but he didn't like animals it would have to be an automatic deal breaker for me, and cats always sleep in the bed.
I think when people have children they ought to put the children first, but I can't have children anymore, and I have no desire to adopt. I honestly don't want the responsibility. The truth of the matter is that I don't have a really strong desire to care for another person.
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Agreed and I believe that if children are involved that BOTH parents are responsible, and BOTH parents have say in decision making.