Is it normal for friends to plan outings you aren't invited to in front of you?

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I don't know if I'm just being clingy, or if my friends are actually jerks. They will discuss parties they are throwing & plans to go out to eat right in front of me without inviting me or including me in the conversation. I've known all these people for at least a year & see them frequently (I've lived with two of them) enough to consider us good friends.This happens pretty frequently.

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  • Circleman
    6 years ago

    Friends? They are purposely trying to hurt you, you dope. Apparently you rubbed one of them the wrong way. Tell you what. Next time this happens stand up and fart in one of them's face. A real loud stinky one.

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    • toastgown
      6 years ago

      Gosh what an awful toxic community this site has! I'm autistic so I can't really tellwhat's socially ok or not. That's why I turned here. Thanks for nothing!

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      • Hateful1
        6 years ago

        This used to be a place where you could get help but then the trolls took over.

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        • rayb12
          6 years ago

          This wasn't a troll response. This is blatantly hurtful behavior. And the farting part was just an exaggerated fantasy of getting revenge.

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    • itsamistake
      6 years ago

      For god's sake what are you 12? What inane advice to give someone. You must have a few other idiot friends here to thumb you up, that or the trolls that overrun this site.

      OP if your friends are doing this to you, they are NOT your friends. Find some new ones.

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  • AntiArchon
    6 years ago

    Either they're complete jerks or your'e not a good friend or fun to be around? either way they could plan things without rubbing it in your face..that's so rude. You could casually ask them "what's up with the no invite thing? kinda feel like an outcast here".. then maybe they'll give you an answer, but if not and they still act passive aggressive then time to find some new friends dear.. don't let anyone make you feel like shit vice versa.

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  • hermione
    6 years ago

    they are not your friends, your just the decor dump them and move on.

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  • Nickvey
    6 years ago

    news flash , the people you call friends are really someone else friends

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  • Justmehere
    6 years ago

    It's either implied that you're invited, too, or..They're genuine assholes who intentionally leave you out to send a message. One of my friends a long time ago, was famous for bitching and complaining about everything, all the time, so..The rest of us started planning stuff together, places to go, etc, in front of him to say, you're invited, too, but we know you're going to whine and complain. He eventually got the hint, and knew..If interested in our plans, he better speak up.

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  • TheGreyGuy
    6 years ago

    Not everyone you talk to or live with is your friend.

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  • factcheck
    6 years ago

    It's hard to tell without being there, but I really doubt they're intentionally leaving you out...I'm sure they either think you don't want to go(have they invited you in the past and you always say no?) or they think it's implied that you're invited. If they're having the conversation in front of you, you don't have to wait for them to include you in it, you can just jump in. Give them a subtle indication that you'd like to go(say "that sounds like fun" like somebody else suggested) and either they'll make sure you're included or they'll subtly let you know they don't want you there. IF the latter happens, it's not normal and you need new friends, but my guess is the former will happen.

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    • hermione
      6 years ago

      even if it wasn't his thing a friend would ask you anyway

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  • graciegirlxo
    6 years ago

    sure it's normal because it happens a hell of a lot more often than it should. But it's not normal if ur friends care about your feelings bc it is completely rude

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  • rayb12
    6 years ago

    That's so mean. Those are not friends you are not clingy.

    If they're talking about something they were invited to and you weren't that is OK. But that doesn't sound like what you're describing.

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    • rayb12
      6 years ago

      Even if they didn't plan it it is still insensitive to go on talking about it around you

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  • bob7
    6 years ago

    you are good friends , so good that u dont need a formal invitation

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  • Someth1ngRecogn1zable
    6 years ago

    Have you already tried to say something like "yeah, thats sounds like fun" and see how they react?

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  • GreenPelican
    6 years ago

    They’re not your friends.

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  • Hateful1
    6 years ago

    Have you asked if you can go? Or do you just blend in to the furniture?

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  • CrackheadTommy
    6 years ago

    Maybe you need to take a bath?

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  • FILTHYPAKI
    6 years ago

    yes yes yes is be happens to me all times

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  • Kevinevan
    6 years ago

    I'm going to go out on a limb and guess you live in Washington State. If you do then it's normal for the pricks that live there to do this.

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  • edwininthematrix
    6 years ago

    I'm sure they would let you come if you asked nicely about buying their beer or anything else they might need. you have to be a friend for them to include you in their group.

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