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My friend who is 25 lives in a separate house near his grandmother. He mentions that he sees her after work sometimes for two hours each day during the week. Am I wrong to find this unhealthy? It seems his family guilts him to doing so.
If he enjoys spending time with the grandmother, there's nothing wrong with it.
However, some families are abusive and exploitative. If he's being used as a granny-sitting service, if he's the only one in the family providing social contact for the grandmother, and if the time spent with her is having a negative impact on his own life, then this is wrong. It's possible he might come to resent the demands placed on him by the grandmother and the rest of his family, and this will be good for nobody in the long-term.
In the end, it's your friend's life. Regardless of what you think about the situation, it's for him to decide if he's content to go along with what his family is apparently expecting him to do. It seems to me that, as his friend, the best thing you can do is be around to provide some positive, supportive contact with someone who's closer to his own age.
gay men adore their grandmothers and can't wait to inherit all the shit they have , could this be the case? of course granny has to die first but they like to muscle in on the old lady and get her to sign away everything to them.