Let me just say I know EXACTLY how you feel !! I've been with the same man for almost 11 years and we have two kids. We share bank accounts, everything, but we are not married. And although we have talked about it a few times over the years, anytime I bring it up in the past year or two, he changes the subject. Then he wonders why I get mad or frustrated ! I have googled this subject sooo much just to see what other women say or do in this kind of situation, and have seen many conflicting opinions.
Some women say why do you need the piece of paper, if you love the person, you're going to be with them anyway so what's the difference?
And then some say it's only and decent that he should put the ring on and make you his WIFE not just girlfriend or kids mother!
I don't know what to tell you to do here, but I honestly think often about getting out and finding someone who WANTS to marry me. It's that one last step that we women need, that these men won't give to us. And it's not fair that we are giving them our all, we deserve what we want to be happy too.
But logically, I know marriage doesn't fix things or change them, so you just gotta decide if the relationship is worth staying in and if you would stay there for another 12 years without a marriage or a ring. That's what I'm dealing with. Sorry for the super long answer lol
IIN for a man to postpone marriage proposal as long as possible?
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Let me just say I know EXACTLY how you feel !! I've been with the same man for almost 11 years and we have two kids. We share bank accounts, everything, but we are not married. And although we have talked about it a few times over the years, anytime I bring it up in the past year or two, he changes the subject. Then he wonders why I get mad or frustrated ! I have googled this subject sooo much just to see what other women say or do in this kind of situation, and have seen many conflicting opinions.
Some women say why do you need the piece of paper, if you love the person, you're going to be with them anyway so what's the difference?
And then some say it's only and decent that he should put the ring on and make you his WIFE not just girlfriend or kids mother!
I don't know what to tell you to do here, but I honestly think often about getting out and finding someone who WANTS to marry me. It's that one last step that we women need, that these men won't give to us. And it's not fair that we are giving them our all, we deserve what we want to be happy too.
But logically, I know marriage doesn't fix things or change them, so you just gotta decide if the relationship is worth staying in and if you would stay there for another 12 years without a marriage or a ring. That's what I'm dealing with. Sorry for the super long answer lol