Is it normal for a girl to want a guy to 'fix'?

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It began in middle school, when my friend/crush had depression. I didn't understand at the time what that meant, but I found myself getting really attached to him, sympathizing for him, etc. Then in high school, I dated this guy (who no one seemed to like) kinda the dark-type, and he had anger issues. I was able to help him calm down a lot of times where he would've lost, and he was really needy, so I guess I felt like that was what my job was supposed to be.

I talked to my friend about this and she said it's the whole "wanting to fix someone" I do understand now that I should avoid making other people's problems my own, and that many times the person needs to help themselves. I just wanted to know if this is normal.

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  • Darktown_vs_Blackville
    7 years ago | pl

    It is only notmal in the sense that it is common for girls to want to do this. It is not a "normal" healthy thing to do, though. And what you may not realize is that people tend to be attracted to similar people as themselves, so if you feel compelled to "fix" someone it probably means you should take a look at yourself because you probably have your own set of issues that need fixing.

    Healthy people do not feel the compulsion to fix their friends and partners. If you really want to help people in a correct way then join hospice or become a medical professional or something

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