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So my husband and his coworker decided to go to the movies and didn't invite their wives. My husband didn't even tell me about his plans until an hr before he left. And his friend came and picked him up even tho we have a car and live a mile from the theater. Am I the only one who thinks this is weird?
There is nothing weird about this at all. Unless there are signs that he's gay I really wouldn't worry
They must be on the down low. There is no other explanation.
Or, they just wanted to see a movie without the ordeal of women being involved.
Maybe they just wanted to see a movie they knew y’all wouldn’t of wanted to see.
I mean, don’t you go off with your friends without your husband?
Why would it be wierd?, just like you have girlfriends and go to the salon.your hubby needs buddies to hang out with.
I think the only concern would be if this were 2005 and they were going to see "Secret of Brokeback Mountain".
I had a few friends who saw it at the theater but they didn't pay to go in, instead they snuck in the back door.
Test his reaction.
Next time when they have plans like this and he tells you, act a little excited and innocently say you'll join. From there, pay attention to his reaction closely, as in don't interrupt him or get angry, just listen and observe. If he gets nervous and tries to convince you to stay home or something, or gets irrationally angry, or a reaction that shouldn't be for something so simple, then he's hiding something.
Do you have any reason to doubt his truthfulness to you? If this is the first time that it happened give the man the benefit of the doubt. If it becomes a pattern tell him the last minuteness and lack of inclusion pisses you off.
Dont go worrying about something until there is something to worry about.
My concern would be, is your husbands friend okay? Is his marriage falling through the cracks and he needs a buddy to talk too about it on the ride to the movies, dinner or ride back. Or vise versa. Is the bond between your husband
going thin? Maybe he needed to get something off his chest and had to talk to a friend.
From a married standpoint, friendships dwindle over time due to focus on family life on both parties. Work, children, stress, etc will slowly detach friends. When I was married, a friend and I went to the gym every day, 6 days a week to 5 times a week, bi-weekly. We started going to the gym so he could spill his guts on everything going on in his life for 2 hours a day. This happened because he felt weak doing this in front of his wife. He needed to talk to someone, just a person he wasn't being a "rock" for.
I would consider this as normal as there isn't much detail other than them spending time together without their wives.
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Ok let me add a little to this... This was a day after we were supposed to be doing something for my birthday but I was told we couldn't afford to. I know the movie was only $20 tops but it still hurt my feelings I wasn't even invited.. I'm sure it's nothing I just don't understand and when I expressed this it was a fight and he still went.
Seems to me you did not get the level f sympathy you were looking for on the original post, so now you have added in this new piece of information to make his behavior look worse and niw you look like the poor jilted wife. At this point im calling BS on your story. I think you are just trying to get people to feel sorry for you. Sorry, not me. If this did happen perhaps you acting like this is why he hid it from you until the last minute. Someone else posted maybe the friend was having marital issues. Perhaps it is he who is sick of you, when he cannot even go to a simple movie without his wife over reacting. Chill out lady.
Well it's not bs and I could care less about sympathy from strangers. I simply wanted unbiased opinions so that if I were in fact overreacting I'd know and apologize to my husband. People were asking questions so I added in why I was feeling the way I was.
Pretty important details that sorta of change the entire dymnaic of the post don't you think? Weird you would leave that out.
It makes more sense now that he wouldn't invite you.