I'm not 30 yet, but had sort of a silly "quarter life crisis" last year when I turned 25. Like you, I wasn't really sure what it was about since I had been so excited to get past my teens and early 20's and start doing more "adult" things like buying a home and such. I think it definitely has to do with the fact that time passes so quickly it's scary, and only seems to be passing by faster as we get older, and if the past 25-30 years has gone by this fast, how fast will the next 25-30 years go by? I've always been a person who is kind of freaked out by the uncertainty of the future (and am not wild about change), which causes me to feel a bit freaked out about it as well.
For me, I had all of these thoughts of "Have I experienced enough by this age? Did I waste a good portion of my youth away?", which gave me those weird feelings about turning 25 as well. Perhaps that may be what is going on with you as well?
I also worried about the pressure to start "settling down" (even though I'm not a wild person by any means, and as far as relationships go, I am happy being single) since I was never a very adventurous person to begin with and I began wondering if I wasted several years of opportunities to get to experience things and have fun with friends before I was expected to become a "boring" adult. My peers all getting married and starting families freaked me out since it doesn't seem right that we're at that age yet.
I definitely think that especially in the age of social media, a lot of people tend to wonder if they've done enough in their lives or are where they're supposed to be because they feel as if they may be behind most other people their age or compare their lives to theirs. When talking to my parents about how I don't really know exactly what I want out of life yet and feel as if most people my age have that all neatly planned out, they told me that nearly everyone feels they don't have their "shit together" in some way or another. Of course, we only see what others want us to see of their lives, while we know all of the details of our own.
The thought that I'm now closer to 30 than 20 is definitely a little weird to me, especially with the fact that time has passed so quickly, like you said. It seems like I was a teenager with adulthood seeming so distant just yesterday. I have a feeling it will all be fine and all work out though, and that young adulthood (to me, 20's and 30's) can be a very confusing time, and that's normal.
IIN feeling depressed about recently hitting 30?
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I'm not 30 yet, but had sort of a silly "quarter life crisis" last year when I turned 25. Like you, I wasn't really sure what it was about since I had been so excited to get past my teens and early 20's and start doing more "adult" things like buying a home and such. I think it definitely has to do with the fact that time passes so quickly it's scary, and only seems to be passing by faster as we get older, and if the past 25-30 years has gone by this fast, how fast will the next 25-30 years go by? I've always been a person who is kind of freaked out by the uncertainty of the future (and am not wild about change), which causes me to feel a bit freaked out about it as well.
For me, I had all of these thoughts of "Have I experienced enough by this age? Did I waste a good portion of my youth away?", which gave me those weird feelings about turning 25 as well. Perhaps that may be what is going on with you as well?
I also worried about the pressure to start "settling down" (even though I'm not a wild person by any means, and as far as relationships go, I am happy being single) since I was never a very adventurous person to begin with and I began wondering if I wasted several years of opportunities to get to experience things and have fun with friends before I was expected to become a "boring" adult. My peers all getting married and starting families freaked me out since it doesn't seem right that we're at that age yet.
I definitely think that especially in the age of social media, a lot of people tend to wonder if they've done enough in their lives or are where they're supposed to be because they feel as if they may be behind most other people their age or compare their lives to theirs. When talking to my parents about how I don't really know exactly what I want out of life yet and feel as if most people my age have that all neatly planned out, they told me that nearly everyone feels they don't have their "shit together" in some way or another. Of course, we only see what others want us to see of their lives, while we know all of the details of our own.
The thought that I'm now closer to 30 than 20 is definitely a little weird to me, especially with the fact that time has passed so quickly, like you said. It seems like I was a teenager with adulthood seeming so distant just yesterday. I have a feeling it will all be fine and all work out though, and that young adulthood (to me, 20's and 30's) can be a very confusing time, and that's normal.