Is it normal cruel and unusual punishment

All my life my family has always looked down on me. They adopted me when I was 5 years old. I'm 18 now, and have grown up in a very religious family. They are Seventh Day Adventists. Every aspect of my life is controlled. I try to go through the motions and be a good and obedient religious boy, but it's hard. I question a lot of the things I'm taught. Everyone around me just seems like they are brainwashed and questioning anything is considered sinful and from the devil.

Anyways, as a young boy I've become very aroused much of the time. I know it's wrong but I cannot stop thinking about girls. I started getting into porn when I was 14 and have managed to keep it a secret all this time. I always make sure to erase my internet history and hide any files I download deep inside the file system. I work part time after school at a grocery store and most of my money goes to the church, but I get to keep a little for school lunch. I saved up my money and decided to order a porn movie. This movie happened to be really quite sick. It involved anal and rough blowjobs where the girls puke and get slapped. I know I'm sick. I'm ashamed.

We have family movie night once a week after church and dinner. I noticed that my mom and sister were acting especially chilly toward me all day and I was getting pretty nervous. After dinner my mom had me sit between her and her sister and my dad sat in the easy chair next to the couch. Mom said "We have a very special movie for tonight," and turned on the tv. There it was. It was the porn I had ordered. They'd searched my room. The movie was over an hour long and they made me sit between them and watch the entire thing. The whole time they were taunting me and saying things like "You like watching these little harlots degrade themselves you little demon spawn pervert? I bet you do." My sister slapped my face. My father called me a little faggot.

At about the 30 minute mark I couldn't control it. I got an erection. I just couldn't stop it. I wasn't even really aroused because I was so uncomfortable but it happened anyway. My mom got up and retrieved the bible from the coffee table and slammed it down on my penis. I screamed in pain and everybody took turns spitting on my face and in my hair. They made me sit back down on the couch and continued taunting me and occasionally slapping and spitting at me until the movie ended. Then my mom said "Go to bed." In the morning they told me they were disowning me and that I have the rest of the day to clear out my things and get out. I live on the street now. I spend my day on the computer at the library and sleep on the street. I got fired from my job because my mom knows the manager who is also Seventh Day Adventist. My life is ruined. Is it normal for religious families to disown their own people like this? Is there anything I can do to get back with them? Sorry for the long post but I had to get it out. Thank you for reading

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Comments ( 34 )
  • This is why a religious upbringing can really fuck people up. You don't seem to have any significant problems yourself, but had a very unhealthy family. I advise to distance yourself from that religion and start something new in life. It is your family that has the problem. Not you.

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  • ReginaFalange

    They are the ones whose souls are really lost, poor things.
    Religion has eaten their brains and damaged their hearts too.

    You deserve a happy life away from those people, however hard it is, it will be worth it.

    With time you may come to forgive them for their ignorance, in their minds they might think they are doing the right thing.

    I wish you a very happy life!

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  • handsignals

    What movie was it?

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    • rimjob

      The way he described it I'm sure it was either "facial abuse" "gag factor" or "face bash" Trust me I know. It's standard porn I Jack-Off to all the time. ;)

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      • handsignals

        There religious psychos even 'naughty night shift nurses' would seem evil to them, God knows what they would have done if it was 'extreme schoolgirls 6'.

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        • rimjob

          Max Hardcore went to prison as the "fall guy" His shit was kinda pushing it in a Troll-like way towards the end. It isn't brutal and violent like gag-factor etc. Mine is Motherless. Whats your favorite porn site?

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          • handsignals

            That is a disturbing name for a porn site, I'll stick with xhamster and my endless quest to find chicks with big tits and fat assess.

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            • rimjob

              Chelsea Charms, quest ended, there are no TITS bigger. Period. And that's very Vanilla of you...

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  • jethro

    Join the military and move away. There is nothing keeping you there. Why would you buy a porn movie when there is tons and tons of it online for free?

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    • Ellenna

      Why would he want to go from one authoritarian organisation to another? I reckon he needs a bit of fun, not more regimentation

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      • jethro

        How is he going to have fun, as you say? He has no job or marketable skills. AKS no money to speak of. He can't support himself. He also is so dumb as to buy a porn video, with what little money he has, when it is out there for free. He is like most teenagers, useless and expects everything to be handed to them. They all think the world owes them something. You must be a teenager as well because the military isn't any more regimented or authoritarian than say a factory or construction or you name it job. Even if you own your own business there is regimentation otherwise you are out of business.

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        • Ellenna

          I really meant he needs some fun and joy in his life after growing up in such an awful dreary amily and believe it or not, he can do that without money.

          I see no evidence that he's useless etc and I know many teenagers who are not as you describe them. They "all" think that? Every single teenager in the whole wide world? What rubbish ...

          You're rubbish at guessing ages: I'm 68, nearly 69 .... Thanks for the laugh though

          I stand corrected if the military has changed so much it's no longer regimented and authoritarian, but I don't believe it

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          • jethro

            Well then. Perhaps you should become a foster mother to this teen. Take him into your home and show him how to have fun. Pay his bills, feed him, clothe him, send him to college. It is easy to to say "go and have fun" when you have no investment in the outcome. So now is the time to put up or shut up. I would rather be a little tough and show them a way to become a contributor to society as opposed to being the burden you propose. Sooner or later this teen has to grow up and pull his own weight. How are you preparing him to do that? If you are not contributing to the community, you are basically useless. Just because you chronological age is 69 does not mean that you have the mentality of an adult. I am tired of working my ass off to support useless people who are having fun on public assistance. Someone should kick them in the ass and say it is time to support yourself or starve.

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            • Ellenna

              If I could afford to I would do exactly that. Why are you so down on him? He's been kicked out of home by idiotic parents remember. He's homeless and you don't know that he's getting any public assistance - he doesn't mention it and from his previously sheltered background probably wouldn't know how to go about getting it.

              You seem to be over-reacting to my suggestion that he needs some fun in his life: having come out of a fundamentalist christian background myself, I was merely encouraging him to find some joy and hope after all that dreariness and oppression, not live a life of luxury on public assistance. Teenage is a time to play and have fun as well as study for the future, not to struggle to support yourself with no adult help.

              I'm not going to waste any more of my time engaging with you, it's pointless

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      • ReginaFalange

        You read my mind!
        Scape one to go to the other.... hell, no!

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  • green_boogers

    Go to a town that has a homeless shelter. Talk to a counselor there about what happened. They will know what your best opportunities are. (You may be able to live in a cheap tent inside a warehouse). Generally, Walmart, and McDonalds are always hiring.

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  • Ellenna

    I'm really sorry this has happened to you: you've done nothing wrong, you've not committed any sins but these religious nuts have, but then people like them have a mental illness masquerading as a religion. Do they really think god has nothing better to do than spy on a teenager exploring sex?

    By the way, it's very common for people from strict religious backgrounds to be attracted to violent porn, so don't worry about that either unless you get fixated on it or it adversely affects your views about women - porn actors are just that, actors, they're not a guide to how to actually behave in the real world.

    I've heard that a fair proportion of streekids have been kicked out by parents, so maybe you can get some support there? Or youth shelter, even if they don't have space for you yet they'd be supportive.

    I'm positive there's a support network for people leaving fundamentalist religions and probably one specifically for SDA's (or sevvies as we call them in this town, which they once used to practically run). Get googling - there will be support out there for you

    What country are you in, by the way?

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  • Dot123

    Religious people are nut-jobs. We all know religion was invented by flesh and blood extraterrestrials.

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  • Arm0se

    Religious people are crazy people.

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    • Freedom_

      I don't think this is the place to form religious stereotypes from. ^that's a rare, extreme circumstance, if it's even true.

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      • Arm0se

        Yeah sorry :/

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        • Freedom_

          No harm done. I'm just giving a casual reminder to not judge all people by a few.

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  • smackthelittlefatty

    Stay away from those PEOPLE!!! Do you have friends you can stay with who are not RELIGIOUS FREAKS?

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  • spy02

    You didn't do anything wrong. Your family have got problem with religion (or heads - sorry for saying that) and I'm really sorry to hear that this happend to you.

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  • snarkygirl

    I hate cults

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  • Walk

    duuude, i'm really sorry to hear that. No proper family should do that, religion has really gotten to them. You shouldn't be ashamed for watching porn. Everyone does it, it's totally normal.

    Forget about your family and their dumb religion. I'm really sorry to hear they treated you that way. How could any decent family disown a kid they've had in their family for so long just because of one movie? Religion over family? They’re total pieces of shit.

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  • Liz_the_ginger

    That is so messed up... They shouldn't be allowed to disown and kick you out just because you did something many boys your age do. That's just wrong. No matter what your religion.

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  • Bambi2015

    Horrible situation the family seemed strange to begin with and they bascially tried to brainwash u. A good normal christain family would not have kick u out or abused u and embarrassed u like that. I feel sad for u. But if u have no family the best thing would be to join the military and there u can get an education travel and be around a normal type structure Plus u will get a pay check. And when ur done with the military speciallt if u specialize in a specific area u can get a great job. Dont go back 2 that family they have issues serious issues stay away from them they will only bring u down mentally. Be postive and surround urself with positive and good hearted normal people I WISH U THE BEST IN UR LIFE.

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  • Anonymous200

    That's awful! Since you have access to a computer, please search for organizations that can help abuse victims. They can give you a home until you get back on your feet and help you get a job even if it is just minimum wage. Don't get in contact with your family, because they have mistreated you. I've looked up a couple for you: http://www.safehorizon.org/page/get-help-8.html
    http://nnedv.org/policy/issues/housing.html
    And another thing, it is one-hundred percent normal for a teenage boy to like sex. Its not normal to be so comfortable with sex that you parade it around, but watching it in your room and jerking off in private is normal.
    I really hope I could help. Stay strong.

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  • nicksimmons

    Oh my.. that aint right at all.

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  • FlyingSquid

    There are places where people just like you can get help. "Just like you" as in former 7th day Adventists. It's a cult. They are not your family. Families don't treat each other like this. Don't try "getting them back" It's not worth it. Get help. In fact, they hurt you. They assaulted you. They need to be arrested. Try to go to a police station and explain everything. Don't be embarrassed. Get help NOW.

    http://www.thehotline.org/

    By the way, sex is NORMAL. It is how anything exists, It reproduces.

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  • rimjob

    Will this post become an INN classic? Kinda Trolley, regardless, great story and funny as hell at that.. OP you need to join the Military. At 18, sign up and give them a location, they'll give you a date. Be at that location on that date and they will pick you up in a bus and OFF YOU GO!

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