I think you're just approaching this from a place of really strong emotions rather than a place of logic and reason. If someone is verbally and emotionally abusive to the point that you want to physically assault that person in any way shape or form that is big red flashing light that says you shouldn't be in a relationship with that person.
If someone is verbally abusive toward me I can use my wits, and come back at that person with a comment that will hurt more than if I knock that person down, or punch them. Honestly, if I take a good, hard look at myself I have to admit that if I even want to tear someone down with just words it's still a big, red flashing light that says I don't need to associate myself with that person much less be in a relationship with them.
As far as I'm concerned it really doesn't matter if she has evidence or not. If I do something wrong I have to accept the consequences of my action. You are lucky that she didn't call the cops on you, and honestly I think you should be grateful for that.
I hope you aren't still with this person, because obviously ya'll are completely wrong for each other. Just try to live your life well, and be the best person you can be. Character is about what you do when no one is watching, and integrity is about choosing to do what's right rather than what is convenient.
If someone gives you a hard time about taking antidepressants that is not a person you need to be close to at all. There are a lot of people who are very ignorant about mental illness, and the best thing you can do for yourself is to accept that the person is whatever they are, and you cannot change that person. If you think you can change, or enlighten a person who is an ignorant ass about mental illness, or any other issue that is important to you then you are opening the door to a whole lot of codependent bullshit that you don't need in your life.
I think you were completely wrong to get physical with her, but I still think the comments you made about her not knowing who the father of her child is are still pretty funny. You might not like everything I say to you, but at least know I ain't gonna lie to you just to make you happy.
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I think you're just approaching this from a place of really strong emotions rather than a place of logic and reason. If someone is verbally and emotionally abusive to the point that you want to physically assault that person in any way shape or form that is big red flashing light that says you shouldn't be in a relationship with that person.
If someone is verbally abusive toward me I can use my wits, and come back at that person with a comment that will hurt more than if I knock that person down, or punch them. Honestly, if I take a good, hard look at myself I have to admit that if I even want to tear someone down with just words it's still a big, red flashing light that says I don't need to associate myself with that person much less be in a relationship with them.
As far as I'm concerned it really doesn't matter if she has evidence or not. If I do something wrong I have to accept the consequences of my action. You are lucky that she didn't call the cops on you, and honestly I think you should be grateful for that.
I hope you aren't still with this person, because obviously ya'll are completely wrong for each other. Just try to live your life well, and be the best person you can be. Character is about what you do when no one is watching, and integrity is about choosing to do what's right rather than what is convenient.
If someone gives you a hard time about taking antidepressants that is not a person you need to be close to at all. There are a lot of people who are very ignorant about mental illness, and the best thing you can do for yourself is to accept that the person is whatever they are, and you cannot change that person. If you think you can change, or enlighten a person who is an ignorant ass about mental illness, or any other issue that is important to you then you are opening the door to a whole lot of codependent bullshit that you don't need in your life.
I think you were completely wrong to get physical with her, but I still think the comments you made about her not knowing who the father of her child is are still pretty funny. You might not like everything I say to you, but at least know I ain't gonna lie to you just to make you happy.